Tales of Heartbreakers - And The Heartbroken - Puppy Love Memories, Long Distance Love, Living the "Two Handphones" Life... if you want to share, then this is the thread.
Relationships in definition is the connection between two object, concept, groups, or individuals (people), or the state of being connected. Now I would like to talk about relationships between people that is considered special, this kind of relationship is called love. Many people say love is a beautiful thing, it’s a feeling that can’t be replace, it’s out of this world. But I would say differently, I would say that love is toxic, it is draining, it’s like a drug, enjoyable but dangerous. Why? Because if we fall in love with someone, cling on each other, be so attached that we would be locked in from the world outside, we would be chained down by our partner thus not being able to go out with others, we would spend most of our time, money, emotion, and energy on this relationship. This is what must be faced by people in relationships, and their commitment will determine how long they will be together. So in my opinion, love does feel amazing, it is wonderful, but it cost a lot.
Mik wrote: "Many people say love is a beautiful thing, it’s a feeling that can’t be replace, it’s out of this world. But I would say differently, I would say that love is toxic, it is draining, it’s like a drug, enjoyable but dangerous."
You have expressed yourself nicely here. However, take a look at how I punctuate it.
"Many people say love is a beautiful thing; it’s a feeling that can’t be replaced; it’s out of this world. But I would say differently. I would say that love is toxic; it is draining; it’s like a drug: enjoyable but dangerous."
Note the COLON before "enjoyable but dangerous". Why? Well, because, unlike the independent clauses after each SEMI COLON, "enjoyable but dangerous" could not stand as a sentence on its own.
I guess as much as people fantasizes the feeling of ‘love’, they’re also much afraid to open up to the world about it. I’m neither proud nor ashamed to say that I’ve dated several guys before. Though I’m not really sure of what I experience before somehow is considered to be a ‘real’ relationship and do it meets standards of adults dating. A year was the longest that I dated someone, it was back in high school where everything was just picture perfect until he had to set off for college and so decided to end the relationship due to the distance that's going to separate us. It stricken me because I used to be a hopeless romantic, brainwashed by soppy cliché movies that are designed to think high school love stories are the ones’ that’s going to last forever. Those unrealistic movies set people, mostly teenage girls, expectations up high of what love’s all about. I’d like to think someday I might find the ‘right one’ or the ‘love of my life’. But prince charming better be patient, at least until I knock my way out of business school.
Fat wrote: "It stricken me because I used to be a hopeless romantic, brainwashed by soppy cliché movies that are designed to think high school love stories are the ones’ that’s going to last forever."
What a great sentence!
Let me tinker a little though.
Use "stricken" (past participle of strike) as a passive: "I was stricken". Otherwise, you should have written "It struck me because..." but that doesn't sound dramatic enough; "I was stricken..." sounds dramatic. Other possibilities: "It hit me...", "It devastated me...", "It destroyed me..." (too dramatic perhaps), "It traumatized me..." (too dramatic?).
Look at the other minor changes I have made:
"I was stricken because I used to be a hopeless romantic brainwashed by soppy cliché movies that are designed to make us think high school love stories are the ones that are going to last forever."
Since I was just a little girl, I still believe that love is the most beautiful thing that happens in life. Even though there are some moments when I'm so depressed that I just lay still in bed, I still put my faith in love. Maybe that's the reason why I'm a hopeless romantic person.
I've always found love in almost every single person I've met. Either romantically or just family kind of love. When I love someone, it just started as a family kind of love which is because most of my friends have a thing inside then that attracted me to them, and sometimes it grows into a romantic love. It makes me scared for several reasons, one of them is that I'm afraid if someone I love will leave eventually because that happened to me in past relationships, but I think that was because we were not ready to commit and didn't put enough trust in each other, not because of love. So, in relationship we all need both of commitment, trust and the most important thing, love.
In my opinion, love is the most important thing in our lives. Love is a very special and meaningful word to every human being, because it is basically the foundation of every relationship. It is true when people say love is life, because life without love would be meaningless. There are different types of love, but this time I would like to talk about the love that we have from our family.
The love of our family is different from what we have from our boyfriend or girlfriend. Love from our family is something that we need in our lives because they will protect us from everything in this live. A family is like a human body. Everyone needs another, and everyone helps another. Our family are one of the people who loves us so much without any boundaries. They will always be on our side no matter what happens in the world. Love them or hate them, families play crucial roles in teaching us how to deal with everything. Without a family, an individual’s life is not complete.
You’ll find yourself in a state of disbelief, denial. You say to yourself that you are apart, but you keep, deep in your heart, the hopes of hearing his “i love you”s once more. You tell yourself you’ve let go, but in truth you’re only grasping out at the ropes, trying to get hold of them once again. It hurts. you get hurt. I am not saying it is the most immense pain the world has to offer, but it is pain unlike any other I have felt. Your limbs feel numb, useless, and your head feels like its been spun a thousand times, and your heart, your heart feels as if someones dug a crater inside it and left it hollow. You constantly feel your chest and throat tightening up, your stomach gets uneasy, your eyes are welling up with tears whether or not you want them to. People start to ask if you’re okay, and the answer is that you are not okay. You don’t feel okay. You feel far from okay.
Love is a feeling that is inevitable in our lives. People may question, how do we feel love? how do we know that love exist? For me, love is a feeling that can affect us crucially. I experienced that I lost the feeling of love when I first moved to Jogjakarta. I am a type of person where I would always spend time with my family everyday. Therefore, everyday I would feel loved. As time goes by, a few weeks before i departed to Jogja, suddenly I felt really sad. At first, I did not know the reason behind it. I started to think about it but never had the chance to figure out the answer. The answer that I was looking for came right when my family said goodbye. Immediately, I shed a tear. At that particular moment, I realized that love is something that is not explicitly felt, but when it is not present, you feel empty.
I've been in a long distance relationship a couple of times. Long distance relationship is truly a challenge that will test how much you're willing to go through for your partner. It can be a really great thing and you're going to have a stronger relationship with your partner or it can be the worst thing you've ever done. Depends on the person you're in a relationship with, because relationship is all about trust. Especially long distance relationship, because you can't see and communicate with your partner's physically and you don't always know what your significant other is doing. A perfect relationship doesn't exist in real life, every relationship has its ups and downs and in my opinion, it's actually a good thing because if your relationship is only flat then you'll get bored. I believe that long distance relationship can work if you put your mind and soul into it. But personally, I can't maintain a long distance relationship because I can't stand not seeing the person I care about.
The idea of channelling your affection towards someone that you think is the one for you might turn into something that is not as beautiful as it might seem, as there is a thin line between love and obsession. There are always circumstances in which you feel that you are always entitled to the person that you love. You are willing to give up anything just for your significant other, even if your significant other would not do the same to you, for the sake of ‘love’. As a result, you will not have the time to think about yourself, and it is not a healthy state of mind. Love is a two-way street; it is about taking and giving. If there is no balance between the two, then there is a great chance that love would turn into obsession. In order to prevent that to happen, make sure that the feeling that you have towards someone would not turn you into someone else that you are not. Never let anyone to change you, even if you think that you need to do it to please the one you love. If someone loves you the way that you are, then that is love is all about.
At a glance when I saw this topic I felt some joyous feelin', so here's my story. Actually my love story never been in this way me and my lover comes from disparate world, he seems to be the man who serves our country, he joined the armed forces with all of their weapons, tanks, aircraft, and ships, yet I'm here as the student of accounting who dwells with number and money. We almost got pretty little thing in common, but it doesn't make us apart even those thing bring us closer. Well, at first I thought I could be that girl who waits for the loved ones to come home and having the happily ever after relationship, but it really doesn't make any sense to me. The thing is if you have a boyfriend but you can't have a good time with him, how can you keep "the spark" alive?, however, I'm still stuck in this long distance relationship hanging with the old proverb "if someone means everything, distance means nothing"
I am a teenager who knows nothing about this kind of thing, but let’s just pretend. You couldn’t control your feelings. Some say, “You can close your eyes to the things you don’t want to see, but you can’t close your heart to the things you don’t want to feel.” This is true. But, to be in a relationship is a choice. There is nothing wrong with that. Because for now, I think we could love anyone in this whole world, even people you meet on the street. But further, I personally see “special relationship” as a choice. I don’t think it works for everyone. Because, there is always a difference between love and owning. But, another person has another point of view. It’s all depends on the situation. But, one of the most important things in this topic I think is to keep your love for yourself even though you’re in love with someone else.
when you fall in love for the first time, you’re probably in one of the most gullible stages of your life. You found someone who makes you want to wake up in the morning, someone who makes you confident, someone who makes you laugh. You found someone who is the reason you’re actually happy for the first time in a long time. So of course you’re naturally going to accept this love and want nothing more, because it’s what you deserve. But then, there’s the other side of it; the side that we ignore. The side where we cry because we don’t feel appreciated at times. The side where our trust issues take over, and we think that maybe the person we love doesn’t love us as much anymore. But still, we ignore this bad side because our brains don’t want to allow us to focus on the negative things.
I knew, from the moment I saw this article. I am going to write about how I overcame heartbreaks.I am not here to tell you about the amount of heartbreaks I had to go through or how those heartbreak occurred. I am here to tell you how I healed and picked myself up after getting my heart broken. Getting your heart broken is beyond your control. That is why whenever I get my heart broken, I always end up asking myself “You can either let it ruin you or motivate you to grow into a better person. Which one are you going to pick?” I believe that picking yourself up and turning yourself into a better person is the best revenge you could ever give someone. Finding yourself again after losing yourself in the process of loving someone that ended up breaking your heart is the best feeling ever. It’s like taking a breath of fresh air. It could take a day, a year or even a month for you to find yourself again. But just let yourself heal, don’t rush it because pain is never permanent and getting your heartbroken isn’t the end of the world.
I think the definition of love depends on who you're sharing it with. It can either be the most beautiful experience you'll ever have or it could be a total nightmare. Love doesn't always comes from a partner, I think the most sincere, genuine kind of love comes from a mother. Whatever love we'll experience in the future or the love we felt from anyone in the past can't really overcome the power of love from a mother. Other than that, a friendship love could also be a beautiful thing if you're having it with the right person. A great love story never comes from an easy journey, they must have experienced their ups and downs multiple times and from that they're able to build and maintain a strong relationship. Whatever it is, in this cruel world I believe everyone deserves to be loved and to fall in love at least once in their lifetime.
They tell you moving on is easy but moving on is actually one of the most difficult things to do. Getting over someone is a constant state of missing someone to wishing they didn’t exist, to loving them, to hating them, to wanting them to never talk to you again, to hoping and wishing they’d send you a text. It slowly gets easier as the distance between you two gets greater, but I don’t know if you can truly get over someone you once care about. They will always have a part of your heart and be a part of who you were and who you are, but I promise one day you’ll realize you deserved to be loved and not considered, you deserve to be fought for not given up on, you will see that person was a lesson, not a rule. You should keep on moving forward and live your life without regrets.
What is the difference between "I like you" and "I love you"? Beautifully answered by Buddha. Buddha's answers is so simple. When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily.
A brief sentence of the love story that ever happened in my life. The first time I liked someone was when I was in high school. I admit that high school is an unstable period for me. At that time I was dating someone, at first I felt happy like the luckiest person in the world. Day by day, there were many problems that occurred between us and in the end we broke up. At first I was sad but after a moment I realized that in this life the problem was not only about love. There are so many things that we must prioritize.
After graduating and going to college, I understand that if we love someone, it doesn't mean we must be his/her partner, the truth is that if we love someone, we pray for him to be happy even though he is with someone else. At that moment I was just jealous when I saw someone else having a partner then I realized that I just like her but didn't love her. Now I love someone but I just keep my feeling deep inside my heart and I hope that she will be happy all the time.
Love is not about ownership of a heart but love is about how we make someone we love to be happy forever. Indeed, sometimes the way we sacrifice so that people can be happy actually makes us depressed. Therefore, love is not just happiness but love can also sometimes be the most violent weapon against us.
I have no idea about it. What is it? What is love? I have never been in love before, but they said it feels amazing. But I do believe in love. I believe in the power of love that can change people's emotion through some magic ways. I am not good at expressing my feeling towards other. But when it comes to my family, I could just do anything to make them happy. I want to consider myself as a lover. Being a lover is not easy I guess, you can call yourself a lover when you can accept and appreciate him or her or them, you can be a lover when you understand that the world is too vicious to separate you from him or her or them. For me, being a lover means that we ready to stay grateful and keep doing what we love the most and take it as a responsibility. And I am so excited to experience this kind of feeling, and I also feel like I am ready for it. But maybe just not now. thats all from me. Thank you!
I would like to share my love story to you all. It’s sort of a “puppy love” kind but to me it meant so much more. When I move to china in the 10th grade I was asked to introduce myself, after that the entire class introduced themselves to me. There was this one girl from South Korea let’s call her Swan and when she introduced herself the teacher said “you should tell him that you’re single” and the entire class laughed, the teacher meant it as a joke and we all knew it. As time passes I start to be more interested about her, the teacher knew about this and always tried to make us close to each other like putting us in the same group and being table mates. I was falling for her, but she always thought of me like an older brother. At the end of the year, we had a prom night, she asked me who I was going with and I said “I’m going with someone very special to me, but I can’t tell you” so she kept asking me all day, everyday for the next week. When the time was right I finally said “it’s you, I’m taking you to prom silly” her face turned red. She told me that she needs time to think about it, and she never gave me an answer, prom night came and she didn’t show up. We were never really the same after that day. Jump to 11th grade we barely talked to each other and It kills me inside everyday, I think about that 10th grade prom night every night I go to sleep thinking “where did I go wrong?”. Then prom night came again and I just went out with my guy friends and just hung out. There I saw her, in a red dress coming all alone. She was looking around for something, could it that she was looking for me? I came up to her and we spent the entire prom night together. When the final dance came the song that was playing was “Thinking Out Loud” by Ed Sheeran. She cried and I asked “why are you crying?” she replied “I’m really sorry I left you at 10th grade, I was just really shy, I really liked you and didn’t know what to do, so I ran away from my problems and I thought you hated me for that”. She left to South Korea a few days after that night and I moved back to Indonesia. The thing I regret the most, till this day is that I never asked for her number or email, because she doesn’t have a social media.
Love, can anyone really explain the feeling of it? I suffered, wait no, I experienced some interesting love adventures and I have learned how each people interpret ‘love’ differently. The cliché part of me would say that being in love is an activity of an individual desire to channel his or her affection he or she has inside. The problem came when one does not get the chance to do so. Not getting the chance to do so means that he or she is not able to express that affection because of some factors. Those factors include rejection, different place or time, and etc. But I believe that affection can be express not just specifically to one particular person. It can be expressed for anyone else just by being nice. Moreover, to make it simpler, I think love can be found in actions of being kind. So I guess, the point of love is just to be nice to anyone. That way, peace can be maintained.
First of all I would like to apologize to Mr. Adrian for letting you down, because I will be doing most of my writing in this thread. It is because I write best when it’s about emotions and feelings, not so much on scientific studies and such and I mean no offense by that. So I was back in Indonesia in the 12th grade where I went to the same School where all my childhood friends went, that when I re-met Nadia. Now Nadia was a good childhood friend of mine, we used to play all kinds of games when we were young, she once dated my best friend and I was envious because I really liked her. When I saw her again in High School I fell in love the very first second I saw her, but she also thought of me as a best friend and I was afraid to lose her if I told her that I liked her. One day she had a severe fever and was hospitalized for 2 weeks, she called me on the first night and said that she was lonely and needed a friend to talk to (through the phone) and I told her “sorry I’m really busy with homework, it’s due tomorrow” and hung up. I did my homework till 9pm and went to the hospital to see her. She was shocked and was saying I was a jerk or asshole for leaving her when she needed me. So we talked all night till 1am when the doctor asked me to leave. We did that everyday for the whole 2 weeks. She tells me stories of this guy she’s in love with, and that she’s afraid she’ll lose him if she tells him. So I told her, I’m going through the same thing and we just kept laughing about it. Little did she know the person I was talking about was her. I felt knives go through my heart every time she tells me stories about this guy, she refused to tell me his name. As time goes by I finally confess and she slaps me, I was scared and felt so guilty, I thought she was going to leave me forever. She then said “you asshole, the guy in my story is you” while crying, and she hugged me. That day was the 29th of August 2017, yesterday was our 1 year anniversary, luckily for us, she is here at UGM.
In August 22nd 2016 Nadia’s mother passed away, and in October 30th 2017 her father passed away, she is a single child with no one to run to, her aunts and uncles are very far from Jogja. Sometimes I feel like I’m all she has left, and I don’t mean to be disrespectful to her family or anything but I really want to take care of her. We meet everyday, and always have dinner together at 8pm at Ayam Geprek Mas Kobis she is the strongest woman I know, she cries every night but I always come to her place when she does and we just walk around almost every night. She makes me want to be a better man, I would never cheat on her and seeing her almost destroyed like that, it really surprises me that she is still holding on. If I was in her position I wouldn’t know what to do, I would maybe even take my own life. However, she makes me fall in love with her so much more everyday, sometimes I think “is this love? Maybe it’s just pity” byt I am very certain that I love her and would do anything for her. She is the reason I want to get married at 20 years old. I wouldn’t plan on having any children yet but I just want to be her official partner both religiously and legally. I want to be in the same house as her, sleep in the same bed every single night, that’s all I want.
loved someone once, at times it was pure bliss and in other times it was sickening and heart-wrenching. At the time, I didn’t fully understand the pros and cons of being in love… scratch that I was a lovesick kid for as long as I can remember. Of course a lot of couple girls made my heart skipped a beat since I was in grade school, but it was only then in middle school when a girl skipped her heart for me too. I always knew dating is not just sunshine and rainbows, but a lot of stormy days as well, but It was only an expectation, I never actually knew how to be a partner of another person. Despite that, I always wanted to try my best at things, so I did. I dated her for about three years, we had some rough arguments that was too much for me to handle and our relationship too tiring for each other. So I decided to call it quits. I used to hate her because of the things she did, but then I remember that we had some wonderful moments together that I could never experienced with another person and I was the one who’s causing the problems. So one day I contacted her and basically said that I want her to be happy and hoped that everything is cool. Our loved died along the way, but I’ll cherish my journey with her forever.
I have never experienced in having a special relationship in someone, not even once. But sure, I ever fell in love with someone. Just about this week, something crossed my mind very suddenly. And that something is about love. I thought love is very unique. Love is a mystery. You sometimes don’t know the reason why you love someone, especially your family, of course. That is unconditionally. In odd moments, the reason to love someone can be simple. As simple as he or she is the one who makes you laugh, lights up your day, the person you always find for him or her whenever you feel sad or you feel like you need someone to cheer you up, and can also be as simple as he or she makes your heart beats ten times faster. Some people have their own criteria for their loved ones. The criteria can be about their characteristic, appearance, and etcetera. Nevertheless, you can fall in love with someone unexpected, or can be loved by someone unexpected.
Looking at the topic and reading some comments make me smile. Love is unique and sometimes you just don’t know how you got that feeling. The first love that all people has is, off course, to their family. Family is the first thing that we know. Then comes the time where we have feelings for other people. It is funny to see that sometimes you can fall in love with the unexpected. Those feelings can come just by spending time together more frequently. Or knowing that she (or he) lights up your day, making you exited to do your daily activities. You feel happy when you know you are being greeted in the morning or being encouraged to do better. You know your being cared when someone always cheers you up and encourages you even when you have hit rock bottom. So, love can start by just being comfortable to someone and have the feeling of caring to each other.
Love is what people say beautiful, toxic, and other words that defines it. To me, love is still a strange word that I do not even know the real actual meaning of it up to this day. I would not say that I am the type of girl that falls in love too easily. I would rather say that it is very difficult for me to move on from someone. I dated someone in the past and I am not even sure if that is what you would call ‘love’. If it was love, then why did I broke up with him? If it was love, then why am I currently dating someone else? These are questions I might never find the answers to. But, I do know a little bit about love. It was when last night my mother covered my body in blanket when I was freezing. It was when she gave me her crackers to eat because she knows I love crackers. It was also when she took my earrings off when I overslept. That is what love to me, that is why she will forever be the love of my life.
Love has never been a permanent resident in my heart, and I’m sure neither in anyone’s. Love is an instant gratification some people trade with something worthwhile, whether that something is one’s true friendship, or life goal. Love knocks on the doors of those people who lack either one of them. So when you believe that there is something greater and worth your time more, love’s departure has never been a hard thing to let go as the alternative is always ready to catch you when you fall. The destination you see in front of you as you fly away with love has never been so clear. When all you see is a clear blue sky, one can only hope that love sees it the same way, and not the ocean. When you think you’re soaring through the sky, at the same time you’re plunging your way towards a deep ocean. This however, is not often the case the love’s fault. Sometimes, we were just too joyous with the current situation that we closed our ears for any forms of criticisms. Little did we know, that we unconsciously included our love’s worn out screams warning us of the dangers ahead, into one of those many noises. For those who entered this world of uncertainties with a realistic perspective on life, created seaplanes, and not biplanes. Boats, and not rockets. These people traded their happiness for safety. And through safety, they found a different form of happiness. One that stays.
Love. The word itself is very universal and omnipresent with ‘I love you’, being one of the most sought after phrases in the world. ‘Love’ is widely depicted in the mainstream culture, in countless stories, movies and songs and due to this, people tend to use this word impulsively. I think that the word love itself devalues overtime. People think that they know ‘love’, but what is it actually? I don’t know much either but quoting David Levithan, “abstraction. Love, is one kind of abstraction.” I do believe that ‘love’ is something very abstract. Different people give different meanings to it. For some people it could be a perplexing puzzle taking a whole lifetime to put together, or a multi-lane highway, in traffic your exit is coming up and you're in the far lane. For some others, ‘love’ is like measles, everyone just gotta go through it but for some others, it’s like a catchy pop song that could turn to an indie sleeper at times. Nothing is certain about it, but an abstract love is better than nothing at all.
I have spent almost a day trying to think of what to write here. This topic is interesting, and I really want to write about love too. Reading all the comments above makes me want to try and put love into words. But turns out it is really difficult for me. What exactly is love? How do you explain love? Love is confusing. For instance, love can’t be measured by time. I have been in several relationships before, with different time period. And the relationship where I truly feel like we connected; where we understood each other completely and were able to balance out the best and the worst in each other, was my relationship that lasted for 6 months, not the one that lasted for 2 years. Maybe it’s because I was still young when I had the 2-year-long relationship, I was still in the 8th grade. But then again, how old we are doesn’t really affect how we love someone, right? A person could be mature enough yet still have their head wrapped around the stereotypical hopeless romance. And someone could be younger but have a more realistic way of looking at love. See, this is what I mean when I say that love is confusing. It’s different for everyone, it’s different every time, and how one person explains love might not be similar to someone else’s. Love is all about our point of view and the way we act towards it.
I think that most people have got it all wrong when it comes to love. They think that they came to this world to master unconditional love. Instead, I think that we came into this world to learn all kinds of love. Through all the years that I’ve lived, I realize that there are more than one kind of love. The first and the most important love is to yourself. Sometimes we forgot to give credit to ourselves and say that yes we are enough. Self-love is not selfish. Self-love is about accepting yourself for who you are. The second type of love is the universal love. A love that you share to all the things in the world, it is the warm feeling that came when you simply see the blue sky or the soaring sea and just being grateful that you are a part of the universe. There are also messy love, crazy love, broken love, and the whole love. I think that we learn from stumbling and messing up. I believe there is no such thing as a perfect love. Because we didn’t came into this world to be perfect, we came into this world to make mistakes and learn from them. For me love doesn’t need the condition of perfection. I think the important thing when it comes to love is to do your best and stay present. Love will make you shine, laugh and cry, hurt and heal, and fall and get back up on your feet. So there are no such thing as a perfect love.
I want to share a love story of a man that is never ever have a girlfriend from the day he was born. I will not share you the detailed long story but let me tell you about the general of it. There was this girl that i met and knew from my Church, and i think she is very cute. Not all people can understand her cuteness, but hey i understand it. So as the time goes by i met and get close to her, very very close. We start to share our deep story about ourself and getting to know each other quiet well. So there was that time when i attended Retreat Encounter from my Church with her and we talked with each other from midnight to 3 a.m and i feel like i was getting closer to her but in that time too i feel some kind of uncertainness. I dont want to share all the detail what kind of exact feeling i get from that momment and after because that “after” is still in this present of time, haha. Thank you!
LOVE, what is love actually? That’s the basic question I’ve heard from my friend. These type of question aroused as they faced adversity throughout their relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve also had an unpleasant journey in my love life, hence I can talk about this type of questions toward love. Actually love is simple yet complicated thing to be discussed as every relationship have their unique and distinct journey from one another, meaning love not only about happiness and cheerful stuff. Love sometimes can be meandering, arduous and even painful at times but that’s how a relationship can be strengthen is through those hard times. But there are no problems without a solution, those problems can be solved, how long until the problem can be solved is based on how we respond to those problems. There is one thing that can explain why, even through hard times we still hold on to one person. As Alan Watts a philosopher said once love is an act of faith as we commit oneself to another, and let things get out of control, and normal people want to keep anything under control but it is not the case for love. As Alan Watts said that love is an act of faith, an act of gamble where you give yourself to another human being and let them decide what to do with you, that is why we know the process of getting into a human-undertaking relationship which is love with the term “falling in love” not “rising into love. And it is quite mad it is quite nonsensical. If we go back to the question “What is LOVE?” , I often referred to my favorite series “How I Met Your Mother?” one of the character Ted Mosby once said “…caring about someone beyond all rationality and wanting them to have everything they want no matter how much it destroys you, it’s love. And when you love someone you just,you don’t stop, ever. Even when people roll their eyes, and call you crazy. Even then. Especially then. You just—you don’t give up. Because if I could just give up if I could just, you know, take the whole world’s advice and—and move on and find someone else, that wouldn’t be love. That would be that would be some other disposable thing that is not worth fighting for…”that is one of my favorite lines from the series, an that pretty much explained everything about what is love, actually.
Love is inevitable, it is both a blessing and a curse. When we're in love, we often misguided by our fantasies. We can't judge our situation rationally because we often get fooled by love. And sometimes, our fantasies are contradicted with the reality that we have to face. And that cause unstable both emotionally and physically, and it influences our every-day life, and we’re more likely to be hyper-sensitive when we’re in this state of mind. People often misinterpret love, they seem to make a barrier and tend to correlate love to their significant other only. With that being said, I’m here not to talk about my love life, I’m going to talk about the word ‘love’ itself. I see love in every aspect of my life. I love how the yellow flowers on my porch seem to shine when the sunlight greets. I also love how the sun never gets tired to light up this world. And the sun is so selfless, because each night it allows the moon and the stars to take control. I see love every time I look at my dad, how kind and genuine he is, the fact that he worked so hard to get to this point and I was there every step of the way. I just hope one day, the society would stop taking love for granted.
Every people must have a different story of their love relationship. Whether they used to be a best friend, a stranger, or even a colleague. But there is one thing for sure about love that must be the same to everyone; it begins with happiness and always end up in sadness. Whoever people that is in love, they must feel like they were in heaven. Because being loved by someone is truly the greatest feeling in the world. Yet remember, love is just the same as riding a roller coaster; there will always be the ups and downs. So whenever you feel in love, it will feels like you were flying as far as you could touch the sky. But once you were betrayed, then you’ll feel like you would never touch the sky and there will be no more gravity holding you up. It’s like you’re falling deep down under the ground. But that’s okay. Because in the end, you will learned from those things that you’ve done wrong and become a better person in the future. So whenever you gets stuck in the rock bottom because of love, get up, and you will always find a way out.
Love is about something that we can’t describe. When we eat a fried rice, we can describe the taste, is it tasty? Is It salty? Or is it sweet? We can describe it clearly. But, when we love someone, how you can describe it? is it because they are beautiful or handsome? Are they cute? I think if it is “yes” it is not about love, but you just like him or her. Like is different from love. Like comes up from what you do, from what you feel, from what you see. You can choose, like it or not. But love? it comes from your deepest heart, you can’t decide, whether you love it or not. Without any reason, they can come, whatever they want. Anyway, most people believe that love comes when you like it. In my opinion, this is true, because when you like something, you tend to spend a lot of time with it, and will eventually get attached. From there, feelings usually grow deeper. For instance, when you like coffee, in a big probability, you will often drink coffee, and try to make it, then, love can come by itself. Thus, what I said, love comes whenever they want and we can know it where it comes. But, we never can define it well or clearly.
Love. Some people adore it. Some people don’t. Some people is still questioning about it. What is love? Why does love exist? What is the purpose of love? Where is it?
I am one of those people who is still lost in this matter. I used to be a romantic novel maniac and I used to watch tonnes of romantic movies. Those pieces of artwork are great manifestation of how words can seduce people and believe that love is all about that. Almost all the books I’ve read and films I’ve watched have beautiful ending in it. How men talk to women, how men behave to women, how women respond back to men, these days are brought by the tradition of beliefs passed by our parents.
Love is indeed dangerous. Just like what Mikail said, it is toxic. It cost a lot of money, time, and sacrifices. But some people still enjoy it. But is it worth it? I’ve been wondering what will happen if love does not exist at first? Would it be even better?
I’m here to talk about Long Distance Relationship. For me Long Distance Relationship is complicated. I personally have been in a Long Distance Relationship and it’s not going well. What I learned from Long Distance Relationship heartbreak, trust is the most important key, It’s hard when you don’t trust each other, both of you tend to have negative thinking mind and that’s lead to clingy temper, thus you can’t rely on your smartphones and other devices to know what’s your partner is been up to. There are a few ways to make a better bonding and gaining trust Make a good communication with your partner, when you tell something to your partner be as clear as possible to show that you are not hiding something, Have a good attitude of gratitude also important Much long distance relationship end because the distance becomes all the couple can think about. It becomes a painful experience when all they talk about is how awful it is that they can’t be together, how much they miss each other, and how difficult it all is. Watching your partner suffering emotionally is horrible. Many people decide that it’s better to break-up than prolong the agony. When you talk, try to focus on what’s great about your relationship. Don’t wallow in the painful times – you might risk losing it altogether.
The first time I saw this topic, I feel tempted to tell my stories about my love life. Actually, right now as a freshman in college I am having something that you can refer as “Long distance relationship”, because she studies at the university of padjajaran and she takes accounting as her major. To me, long distance relationship will test and show how far will you go for your loved ones. My love story began with meeting this one girl named shabrina. At first glance I know that she is the one for me, strange huh? I don’t know why those feelings just popped in my mind, but since then I knew that love at the sight does exist. Our love story started badly and after a few months she said that she didn’t like my attitude towards her and she said that she didn’t want to talk to me anymore. Since we joined our high school choir, we started talking again after about half a year and my feelings towards her just get stronger and stronger. In my senior year, I wasn’t certain about what major that I am going to take after graduating and she helped me and motivated me through all of that. I felt so lucky to have her and our love grew bigger since then and I wouldn’t dare to hurt her or even leave her. All I know is, love isn’t just all sunshine and rainbows, we’ve been through rough times a lot and after we got over it, all it does is just cherished and grew my love for her even more. I really hope that our love won’t fade and disappear because I do believe that if someone means everything, distance means nothing.
Love is something that is very difficult for me to explain. Love can mean a deep feeling for someone, or our love for family, activities, food, and so on. For myself, family is always number 1, especially a mother, my love for mother is a form of eternal love. Apart from family, I love everything that makes me comfortable, starting from the environment of friendship, place of residence, food that suits my taste and so on. And of course as a teenager we must have felt in love with someone in a relationship. I always try to find someone special, which is certainly good, has a positive impact for me. For myself to build a relationship is not difficult, but not as easy as imagined, the most important thing in a relationship is trust and of course support from each other. Never blame love because we eventually break heart, but make a lesson for the future, because love grows without prediction.
After reading some of the comments, it's interesting how most people depict breaking up as a devastating period of time that wrenches the soul. I guess not all break up aches your heart. I was once in a relationship where I was glad that I ended the relationship. He wasn't my type at all and I felt like our relationship was a waste of time. We weren't on the same page most of the time, and we have a totally different vision for the future. Plus, we were on a long distance relationship and he was really clingy; he wanted me to text him back every few minutes, so we fought in a daily basis because I couldn't reply his messages as often as he expects me to. As soon as we broke up, I felt so relieved. I wasn't sad at all, and to be honest I'd say I felt very happy that I'm finally free. Trust me, being single may be the best choice when you're in an unhappy relationship.
I think it’s odd and unfair for us feeling love inside ourselves and people call them with mere words. Feelings deserve more than just words to be explained—they need to be portrayed by illustration, or scientific formula if needed. I’m not one to talk, and my experiences are akin to no experts. If I were to explain love, I would say they could be something like tornado that twirls inside, or even butterflies that fly throughout your system. And heartbreaks are like blades piercing through your skin, but with no blood spilled. At the end of the day, hope would emerge as the result of intersection between desires and reality, and it is wishful thinking with passionate senses imprisoned in your chest at the sight of tomorrow. Love is a combination of ups and downs and everything in the middle. Love is a double-edged sword as it could either kill you or make you alive. Love was, in my case, seeing his back for the first time and uttering his name under my breath like a magic spell.
Love is just a complicated word isn't it? People, if they talk about love, there will tears and joys coming out from their mouth. Loving someone is not a simple thing to do people said, but I think it is really that simple. If you love someone, every single thing that we do for our loved ones is a pure act of kindness, it is hard to keep holding on people said but trying to do that is just wrong, if you really love him/her there's no need to keep holding on them, you'll just do it naturally. For me the most important thing about love is the act not the word. The act of kindness, the joy, the help, the laugh that we give to someone is more important than the word love itself. So, our loves is not just for one person we should try to love every single people we knew no matter what.
Love is just a complicated word isn't it? People, if they talk about love, there will tears and joys coming out from their mouth. Loving someone is not a simple thing to do people said, but I think it is really that simple. If you love someone, every single thing that we do for our loved ones is a pure act of kindness, it is hard to keep holding on people said but trying to do that is just wrong, if you really love him/her there's no need to keep holding on them, you'll just do it naturally. For me the most important thing about love is the act not the word. The act of kindness, the joy, the help, the laugh that we give to someone is more important than the word love itself. So, our loves is not just for one person we should try to love every single people we knew no matter what.
• I suck at love, so everyone says. This particular subject can’t be measured, so for most people, particularly me, it sucks. I mean, if it can be measured then people would call it math. But I guess math sucks too. Up until now, I never really had much experience in this area. I know that some people dated several times during their high school, some even fall in love at kindergarten and whatnot. But I rarely had any interest in the opposite sex, not that I am gay of course. Often times, my feelings of love got mixed up by the feelings of admiration. So I can’t really tell which is which. People often say that falling in love can make you 100% nicer, but why can’t you just be a nice person because you wanted to be one? They said that love makes you sacrifice more, but how much sacrifice has to be made for it to be called love? Maybe someday I’ll understand.
In all honesty, I am blind in this kind of topic as I do not think about this topic that much because I feel the affection that I have hugely receive since I was born is enough: from family and friends. Romantic affairs is not a kind of thought that will cross my mind every day as I have so much to live for and I am sincerely happy without relying heavily upon this kind of matter. I do have cherish-able and broken moments. However, I thrive for happiness from other things far more rather than focusing on love affairs as I do not believe it must be my centre of attention for now.
I may be ignorant in regards to receiving channelled feelings toward me, and I am honestly unintended to do so as I am openly insensitive with romance and I am not ashamed nor proud. People say I am a kind of person if I have found the right one, it will stick with me for an extended period, but we will see.
I would like to share my perspective on love as well as experience in my current relationship. Being in love with someone has brought a certain kind of journey and impact to my life, in a sense that I develop characters within myself that I didn't have before. In other words, my character has improved. Because by being in love and committed into a relationship, I ought to be a person that is more patience, unselfish, reliable, in order to have a stable relationship. To be a good listener and a supportive person are also the qualities that I develop by being in a relationship. Other thing that I want to mention is that if I were to face some problems in a relationship, I constantly try to think not only in my point of view, but also through my partner's, so that tiresome dispute can be avoided. I am indeed grateful because I get to be in a relationship that is not damaging my personal growth.
Love, is a really complex thing. Beautiful, scary, painful, exquisite and so on. There are thousands of words that can describe that word depending to who you ask. Speaking of love, my girl friend’s mom always telling me that, “everybody have a problem that can’t be compared with others.”. That one sentence changed my whole life and my point of view about love. I used to be a not-so-gentleman man. Sometimes I tell a story to my friend about my love life, and can be demanding and desperate for answer for my love life. After I heard that sentence I realized that I’m the only person who can solve my problem. Telling my friends about my problem is not going to make my problem go away and be done. By the way this principle is only applied for this particular problem. The song that saying love is just a game for two is one-hundred percent true. I always recommend people who has trouble with their love life to talk about it directly with partner. For some people it may be different but for me its always work. That’s a little tips from me, I hope it can help you all. Thank you so much.
There are three teachers with us as the disciple in life. Those are Time, Death, and Love. Where Time tells us that time is an illusion yet is real, and Death is known as a sad ending and not a liberation. But Love is the one that will be discussed furthermore in this writing. As years passed in front of my eyes, I found that love is the thing that keep you still holding on to this life. I just found a love from a girl who felt betrayed by the love before. It was hard to make her realize that love is existing not for hurting anyone, it exists to make everything make sense. Then suddenly I am everything to her. But realize that I cannot love her the same way she does. As I mentioned before, Death is known as a sad ending while it should be a liberation. As I grow up my motivation is getting less and I feel like a lost wanderer in a river headed to a place where I was heading before. Yet I am supported by the Time who keep telling me that it is no different if Death coming soon or later. If Love exists to keep you holding on to life then I don’t know for how long does Love could make me stay.
What is love? It’s really a complicated thing to begin with. Love means sacrifice, loyalty, commitment, and it also includes freedom. To feel love means to invest your whole being to anything with commitment, but it doesn’t limit your freedom. Love is not a substance, not a commodity, not even a marketable power resource. Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output. Love is also not a ownership, the more we control others to love, the easier we lose that person. Love will make you feel like you can do anything with your outmost effort, and sincerity will always be with everything you do. In my opinion, love is one of the most important things in live. Without love our lives will be hollow or empty. Love is a powerful force that can transform and change in which we found ourselves. Love can also motivate a person to work harder and drive a person to do whatever he wanted in life.
I want to share my opinion about love which refers to love in between a couple. Well, I believe that everybody has his/her own type of partner that they want to be with. But the fact is, once you fall in love to someone, your type of girl/boy that you dream of will just disappear automatically. Why? It is simply because the real and the truest love doesn’t look at what he/she looks like, or how is his/her personality like. It is more like you just feel it without even realizing it. I think, that is why there is a quote that said “love is blind”. So basically, you cannot choose who you will fall in love to and also you cannot control and even stop your feeling to someone you love. And what I trust until now is that once you fall in love, you just cannot deny it. Relating to that, I think destiny also takes part in making this thing works and that is why there is also a quote that said if it is meant to be, it will be.
I had my own experience in relationship with my high school ex-lover. He is a really mature, generous, and kind-hearted boy. He is not so tall and so skinny compared to other boys in my school. What I really liked about him was his sense of humor. He was really my type guy because he was so funny and always made me laugh. But there was one thing that I always think about, we have different religion. I know it sounds so pathetic and seems like there is no way out to this kind of problem but we still couldn’t deny our feelings. At first, I tried so hard not to fall in love with him, and he did too, but nothing that we could do because we both were stuck in love. We both felt sad because we knew how our relationship would end. Until one night, there was a misunderstanding between me and him so we decided to end our relationship because anyway we cannot be together later on. It is so sad for me either for him, but we have to be realistic.
To be honest, as a 17-year-old girl, I still don't know what love is. Love is very abstract to me that I cannot describe it. The word is easy to say, but harder to know what it means. I agree that it’s a feeling that is inexplicable. People say that you will feel it when you love someone, but how can you know that it is not just a crush? Sometimes we are convinced that we love someone, but do we? Some people say that love is beautiful, but some say that it is dangerous. Until now, I keep on wondering which one is right; is it beautiful, or is it dangerous? To be honest, at some point, I feel like I don’t deserve to leave a more than 150 words comment on this post since I know nothing about this topic, but my view as a 17-year-old girl is that the word ‘love’ is so abstract and is still blurry in my mind, that I cannot describe what it is.
When I heard about the word ‘love’, there are three things that come to my mind: my parent, brother and best friend. I believe that love is a mutual feeling. I’m that type of person that hesitate to express my feeling towards others. In this new environment away from my loved ones, I found it hard to survive. They are my number one support system and no one able to replace it. Although, most teenagers tend to have romantic relationships. Personally, I am not interested in those kind of relationships yet. I choose to share my feelings to people that actually care and know me well. In addition, I don’t trust people easily so it is difficult to find a significant other that would suit me well. I rather have a lot of friends than to be depend on one person that eventually will lead to some kind of disappointment.
Love is a very strong and powerful word. To be honest, as long as I live I never really think about love. For me personally, having a relationship and loving someone is a very serious matter. It is pretty hard for me to open up my heart and trusting a new people to be in relationship with me because I was kind of feel like I’m scared of being betrayed by someone that I loved so much. I see a lot of my friends changing partners and find a new boyfriend/girlfriend easily in a short period of time. It seems that they enjoyed it and be happy about it. Watching my friend relationship kind of make me wondering how could they be very easy to open up their life to someone that we could say stranger. Actually, it’s pretty hard for me to be open up about my life to someone. I need to believe the person first and it takes a long time for me to believe in someone.
Let me tell you a story that makes me believe that true love really does exist. Since I was a kid, I had been admiring my grandparents so much. They taught me a lot about things in life through their tough life story. My grandfather was a principal of a senior high school in Jogja, and my grandmother was an English teacher of another senior high school in Jogja. They both came from a little family from Solo, and coincidence, they pursue their dreams to be a teacher in Jogja. They met in one event of teachers gathering, and my grandfather just fell in love in a sight. These past sixteen years I had spent with both of them, were filled with joy and sincere love that I saw from how they treat each other. My grandfather had been leaving us for the past three years. Leaving my grandmother alone in Jogja.
He had already been sick for about four years. He had a kidney failure that required him to do hemodialysis for twice a week. My grandmother had always been there for him. Often she became sick, my grandfather takes turn to take care of her the other way around. I’m staying with my grandmother now, and until this day, I can still see that she still loves him that much from the way she never missed a day without talking about him. Every single thing that is being talked about, she connected it to “how he was back then”. She still takes care of his bedroom and his stuff. She prays for him every day, goes to his cemetery twice a month. I believe they both are true love. True love that makes each other happy and just being with each other makes the best of themselves. So, yeah, they are the reason why I believe true love.
What is love? Love is such a strong word and the feeling itself is also very powerful. I don’t think I have ever fallen in love with anyone. Some boys might have made my heart skipped a beat and made me feel very special – but it was not love. Perhaps it is because I never take my previous relationships seriously. But I do not take them seriously because I do not love them; I just cared for them. I believe someone you love is someone who you would want to spend the rest of your life with. If you do not see a future with the person you are currently in a relationship with, then why would you agree to continue the relationship because you know that at the end you will not be together anyway? It will only hurt you and your partner and you are only wasting time and energy.
As I don’t know which article to comment anymore, I will talk about my love life. I’ve never been very good with long term relationships so I’m going to talk about my longest relation that lasted about 4 months. Last year, when I was an exchange student in Chile, I went to Bolivia for about 10 days with a group of friends. One of my friends came with her roommate who was Spanish and also an exchange student. During this trip I got on really well with that boy and we always had a lot of fun. So, when we came back to Santiago, we started to see each other more often and began a romantic relationship. The exchange semester ended and we both went to travel separately for about 5 weeks during which we only saw each other during 4 days in Buenos Aires and for his last day in Chile. After that we both came back to our countries and continued talking very often and he came to see me in France for my birthday. The week end he came to France was really great, but we chose to stop our relationship as the distance was to difficult to deal with. Now we are good friends and still talk together quite often.
Relationships in definition is the connection between two object, concept, groups, or individuals (people), or the state of being connected. Now I would like to talk about relationships between people that is considered special, this kind of relationship is called love. Many people say love is a beautiful thing, it’s a feeling that can’t be replace, it’s out of this world. But I would say differently, I would say that love is toxic, it is draining, it’s like a drug, enjoyable but dangerous. Why? Because if we fall in love with someone, cling on each other, be so attached that we would be locked in from the world outside, we would be chained down by our partner thus not being able to go out with others, we would spend most of our time, money, emotion, and energy on this relationship. This is what must be faced by people in relationships, and their commitment will determine how long they will be together. So in my opinion, love does feel amazing, it is wonderful, but it cost a lot.
ReplyDeleteMik wrote: "Many people say love is a beautiful thing, it’s a feeling that can’t be replace, it’s out of this world. But I would say differently, I would say that love is toxic, it is draining, it’s like a drug, enjoyable but dangerous."
DeleteYou have expressed yourself nicely here. However, take a look at how I punctuate it.
"Many people say love is a beautiful thing; it’s a feeling that can’t be replaced; it’s out of this world. But I would say differently. I would say that love is toxic; it is draining; it’s like a drug: enjoyable but dangerous."
Note the COLON before "enjoyable but dangerous". Why? Well, because, unlike the independent clauses after each SEMI COLON, "enjoyable but dangerous" could not stand as a sentence on its own.
I guess as much as people fantasizes the feeling of ‘love’, they’re also much afraid to open up to the world about it. I’m neither proud nor ashamed to say that I’ve dated several guys before. Though I’m not really sure of what I experience before somehow is considered to be a ‘real’ relationship and do it meets standards of adults dating. A year was the longest that I dated someone, it was back in high school where everything was just picture perfect until he had to set off for college and so decided to end the relationship due to the distance that's going to separate us. It stricken me because I used to be a hopeless romantic, brainwashed by soppy cliché movies that are designed to think high school love stories are the ones’ that’s going to last forever. Those unrealistic movies set people, mostly teenage girls, expectations up high of what love’s all about. I’d like to think someday I might find the ‘right one’ or the ‘love of my life’. But prince charming better be patient, at least until I knock my way out of business school.
ReplyDeleteFat wrote: "It stricken me because I used to be a hopeless romantic, brainwashed by soppy cliché movies that are designed to think high school love stories are the ones’ that’s going to last forever."
DeleteWhat a great sentence!
Let me tinker a little though.
Use "stricken" (past participle of strike) as a passive: "I was stricken". Otherwise, you should have written "It struck me because..." but that doesn't sound dramatic enough; "I was stricken..." sounds dramatic. Other possibilities: "It hit me...", "It devastated me...", "It destroyed me..." (too dramatic perhaps), "It traumatized me..." (too dramatic?).
Look at the other minor changes I have made:
"I was stricken because I used to be a hopeless romantic brainwashed by soppy cliché movies that are designed to make us think high school love stories are the ones that are going to last forever."
Since I was just a little girl, I still believe that love is the most beautiful thing that happens in life. Even though there are some moments when I'm so depressed that I just lay still in bed, I still put my faith in love. Maybe that's the reason why I'm a hopeless romantic person.
ReplyDeleteI've always found love in almost every single person I've met. Either romantically or just family kind of love. When I love someone, it just started as a family kind of love which is because most of my friends have a thing inside then that attracted me to them, and sometimes it grows into a romantic love. It makes me scared for several reasons, one of them is that I'm afraid if someone I love will leave eventually because that happened to me in past relationships, but I think that was because we were not ready to commit and didn't put enough trust in each other, not because of love. So, in relationship we all need both of commitment, trust and the most important thing, love.
In my opinion, love is the most important thing in our lives. Love is a very special and meaningful word to every human being, because it is basically the foundation of every relationship. It is true when people say love is life, because life without love would be meaningless. There are different types of love, but this time I would like to talk about the love that we have from our family.
ReplyDeleteThe love of our family is different from what we have from our boyfriend or girlfriend. Love from our family is something that we need in our lives because they will protect us from everything in this live. A family is like a human body. Everyone needs another, and everyone helps another. Our family are one of the people who loves us so much without any boundaries. They will always be on our side no matter what happens in the world. Love them or hate them, families play crucial roles in teaching us how to deal with everything. Without a family, an individual’s life is not complete.
Tale of the broken hearted:
ReplyDeleteYou’ll find yourself in a state of disbelief, denial. You say to yourself that you are apart, but you keep, deep in your heart, the hopes of hearing his “i love you”s once more. You tell yourself you’ve let go, but in truth you’re only grasping out at the ropes, trying to get hold of them once again. It hurts. you get hurt. I am not saying it is the most immense pain the world has to offer, but it is pain unlike any other I have felt. Your limbs feel numb, useless, and your head feels like its been spun a thousand times, and your heart, your heart feels as if someones dug a crater inside it and left it hollow. You constantly feel your chest and throat tightening up, your stomach gets uneasy, your eyes are welling up with tears whether or not you want them to. People start to ask if you’re okay, and the answer is that you are not okay. You don’t feel okay. You feel far from okay.
Tale of the broken-hearted:
ReplyDeleteLove is a feeling that is inevitable in our lives. People may question, how do we feel love? how do we know that love exist? For me, love is a feeling that can affect us crucially. I experienced that I lost the feeling of love when I first moved to Jogjakarta. I am a type of person where I would always spend time with my family everyday. Therefore, everyday I would feel loved. As time goes by, a few weeks before i departed to Jogja, suddenly I felt really sad. At first, I did not know the reason behind it. I started to think about it but never had the chance to figure out the answer. The answer that I was looking for came right when my family said goodbye. Immediately, I shed a tear. At that particular moment, I realized that love is something that is not explicitly felt, but when it is not present, you feel empty.
I've been in a long distance relationship a couple of times. Long distance relationship is truly a challenge that will test how much you're willing to go through for your partner. It can be a really great thing and you're going to have a stronger relationship with your partner or it can be the worst thing you've ever done. Depends on the person you're in a relationship with, because relationship is all about trust. Especially long distance relationship, because you can't see and communicate with your partner's physically and you don't always know what your significant other is doing. A perfect relationship doesn't exist in real life, every relationship has its ups and downs and in my opinion, it's actually a good thing because if your relationship is only flat then you'll get bored. I believe that long distance relationship can work if you put your mind and soul into it. But personally, I can't maintain a long distance relationship because I can't stand not seeing the person I care about.
ReplyDeleteThe idea of channelling your affection towards someone that you think is the one for you might turn into something that is not as beautiful as it might seem, as there is a thin line between love and obsession. There are always circumstances in which you feel that you are always entitled to the person that you love. You are willing to give up anything just for your significant other, even if your significant other would not do the same to you, for the sake of ‘love’. As a result, you will not have the time to think about yourself, and it is not a healthy state of mind. Love is a two-way street; it is about taking and giving. If there is no balance between the two, then there is a great chance that love would turn into obsession. In order to prevent that to happen, make sure that the feeling that you have towards someone would not turn you into someone else that you are not. Never let anyone to change you, even if you think that you need to do it to please the one you love. If someone loves you the way that you are, then that is love is all about.
ReplyDeleteAt a glance when I saw this topic I felt some joyous feelin', so here's my story. Actually my love story never been in this way me and my lover comes from disparate world, he seems to be the man who serves our country, he joined the armed forces with all of their weapons, tanks, aircraft, and ships, yet I'm here as the student of accounting who dwells with number and money. We almost got pretty little thing in common, but it doesn't make us apart even those thing bring us closer. Well, at first I thought I could be that girl who waits for the loved ones to come home and having the happily ever after relationship, but it really doesn't make any sense to me. The thing is if you have a boyfriend but you can't have a good time with him, how can you keep "the spark" alive?, however, I'm still stuck in this long distance relationship hanging with the old proverb "if someone means everything, distance means nothing"
ReplyDeleteI am a teenager who knows nothing about this kind of thing, but let’s just pretend. You couldn’t control your feelings. Some say, “You can close your eyes to the things you don’t want to see, but you can’t close your heart to the things you don’t want to feel.” This is true. But, to be in a relationship is a choice. There is nothing wrong with that. Because for now, I think we could love anyone in this whole world, even people you meet on the street. But further, I personally see “special relationship” as a choice. I don’t think it works for everyone. Because, there is always a difference between love and owning. But, another person has another point of view. It’s all depends on the situation. But, one of the most important things in this topic I think is to keep your love for yourself even though you’re in love with someone else.
ReplyDeletewhen you fall in love for the first time, you’re probably in one of the most gullible stages of your life. You found someone who makes you want to wake up in the morning, someone who makes you confident, someone who makes you laugh. You found someone who is the reason you’re actually happy for the first time in a long time. So of course you’re naturally going to accept this love and want nothing more, because it’s what you deserve. But then, there’s the other side of it; the side that we ignore. The side where we cry because we don’t feel appreciated at times. The side where our trust issues take over, and we think that maybe the person we love doesn’t love us as much anymore. But still, we ignore this bad side because our brains don’t want to allow us to focus on the negative things.
ReplyDeleteI knew, from the moment I saw this article. I am going to write about how I overcame heartbreaks.I am not here to tell you about the amount of heartbreaks I had to go through or how those heartbreak occurred. I am here to tell you how I healed and picked myself up after getting my heart broken. Getting your heart broken is beyond your control. That is why whenever I get my heart broken, I always end up asking myself “You can either let it ruin you or motivate you to grow into a better person. Which one are you going to pick?” I believe that picking yourself up and turning yourself into a better person is the best revenge you could ever give someone. Finding yourself again after losing yourself in the process of loving someone that ended up breaking your heart is the best feeling ever. It’s like taking a breath of fresh air. It could take a day, a year or even a month for you to find yourself again. But just let yourself heal, don’t rush it because pain is never permanent and getting your heartbroken isn’t the end of the world.
ReplyDeleteI think the definition of love depends on who you're sharing it with. It can either be the most beautiful experience you'll ever have or it could be a total nightmare. Love doesn't always comes from a partner, I think the most sincere, genuine kind of love comes from a mother. Whatever love we'll experience in the future or the love we felt from anyone in the past can't really overcome the power of love from a mother. Other than that, a friendship love could also be a beautiful thing if you're having it with the right person. A great love story never comes from an easy journey, they must have experienced their ups and downs multiple times and from that they're able to build and maintain a strong relationship. Whatever it is, in this cruel world I believe everyone deserves to be loved and to fall in love at least once in their lifetime.
ReplyDeleteThey tell you moving on is easy but moving on is actually one of the most difficult things to do. Getting over someone is a constant state of missing someone to wishing they didn’t exist, to loving them, to hating them, to wanting them to never talk to you again, to hoping and wishing they’d send you a text. It slowly gets easier as the distance between you two gets greater, but I don’t know if you can truly get over someone you once care about. They will always have a part of your heart and be a part of who you were and who you are, but I promise one day you’ll realize you deserved to be loved and not considered, you deserve to be fought for not given up on, you will see that person was a lesson, not a rule. You should keep on moving forward and live your life without regrets.
ReplyDeleteWhat is the difference between "I like you" and "I love you"? Beautifully answered by Buddha. Buddha's answers is so simple. When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily.
ReplyDeleteA brief sentence of the love story that ever happened in my life. The first time I liked someone was when I was in high school. I admit that high school is an unstable period for me. At that time I was dating someone, at first I felt happy like the luckiest person in the world. Day by day, there were many problems that occurred between us and in the end we broke up. At first I was sad but after a moment I realized that in this life the problem was not only about love. There are so many things that we must prioritize.
After graduating and going to college, I understand that if we love someone, it doesn't mean we must be his/her partner, the truth is that if we love someone, we pray for him to be happy even though he is with someone else. At that moment I was just jealous when I saw someone else having a partner then I realized that I just like her but didn't love her. Now I love someone but I just keep my feeling deep inside my heart and I hope that she will be happy all the time.
Love is not about ownership of a heart but love is about how we make someone we love to be happy forever. Indeed, sometimes the way we sacrifice so that people can be happy actually makes us depressed. Therefore, love is not just happiness but love can also sometimes be the most violent weapon against us.
ReplyDeleteI have no idea about it. What is it? What is love?
I have never been in love before, but they said it feels amazing.
But I do believe in love.
I believe in the power of love that can change people's emotion through some magic ways.
I am not good at expressing my feeling towards other. But when it comes to my family, I could just do anything to make them happy.
I want to consider myself as a lover. Being a lover is not easy I guess, you can call yourself a lover when you can accept and appreciate him or her or them, you can be a lover when you understand that the world is too vicious to separate you from him or her or them. For me, being a lover means that we ready to stay grateful and keep doing what we love the most and take it as a responsibility. And I am so excited to experience this kind of feeling, and I also feel like I am ready for it. But maybe just not now.
thats all from me.
Thank you!
I would like to share my love story to you all. It’s sort of a “puppy love” kind but to me it meant so much more. When I move to china in the 10th grade I was asked to introduce myself, after that the entire class introduced themselves to me. There was this one girl from South Korea let’s call her Swan and when she introduced herself the teacher said “you should tell him that you’re single” and the entire class laughed, the teacher meant it as a joke and we all knew it. As time passes I start to be more interested about her, the teacher knew about this and always tried to make us close to each other like putting us in the same group and being table mates. I was falling for her, but she always thought of me like an older brother. At the end of the year, we had a prom night, she asked me who I was going with and I said “I’m going with someone very special to me, but I can’t tell you” so she kept asking me all day, everyday for the next week. When the time was right I finally said “it’s you, I’m taking you to prom silly” her face turned red. She told me that she needs time to think about it, and she never gave me an answer, prom night came and she didn’t show up. We were never really the same after that day. Jump to 11th grade we barely talked to each other and It kills me inside everyday, I think about that 10th grade prom night every night I go to sleep thinking “where did I go wrong?”. Then prom night came again and I just went out with my guy friends and just hung out. There I saw her, in a red dress coming all alone. She was looking around for something, could it that she was looking for me? I came up to her and we spent the entire prom night together. When the final dance came the song that was playing was “Thinking Out Loud” by Ed Sheeran. She cried and I asked “why are you crying?” she replied “I’m really sorry I left you at 10th grade, I was just really shy, I really liked you and didn’t know what to do, so I ran away from my problems and I thought you hated me for that”. She left to South Korea a few days after that night and I moved back to Indonesia. The thing I regret the most, till this day is that I never asked for her number or email, because she doesn’t have a social media.
ReplyDeleteLove, can anyone really explain the feeling of it? I suffered, wait no, I experienced some interesting love adventures and I have learned how each people interpret ‘love’ differently. The cliché part of me would say that being in love is an activity of an individual desire to channel his or her affection he or she has inside. The problem came when one does not get the chance to do so. Not getting the chance to do so means that he or she is not able to express that affection because of some factors. Those factors include rejection, different place or time, and etc. But I believe that affection can be express not just specifically to one particular person. It can be expressed for anyone else just by being nice. Moreover, to make it simpler, I think love can be found in actions of being kind. So I guess, the point of love is just to be nice to anyone. That way, peace can be maintained.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all I would like to apologize to Mr. Adrian for letting you down, because I will be doing most of my writing in this thread. It is because I write best when it’s about emotions and feelings, not so much on scientific studies and such and I mean no offense by that. So I was back in Indonesia in the 12th grade where I went to the same School where all my childhood friends went, that when I re-met Nadia. Now Nadia was a good childhood friend of mine, we used to play all kinds of games when we were young, she once dated my best friend and I was envious because I really liked her. When I saw her again in High School I fell in love the very first second I saw her, but she also thought of me as a best friend and I was afraid to lose her if I told her that I liked her. One day she had a severe fever and was hospitalized for 2 weeks, she called me on the first night and said that she was lonely and needed a friend to talk to (through the phone) and I told her “sorry I’m really busy with homework, it’s due tomorrow” and hung up. I did my homework till 9pm and went to the hospital to see her. She was shocked and was saying I was a jerk or asshole for leaving her when she needed me. So we talked all night till 1am when the doctor asked me to leave. We did that everyday for the whole 2 weeks. She tells me stories of this guy she’s in love with, and that she’s afraid she’ll lose him if she tells him. So I told her, I’m going through the same thing and we just kept laughing about it. Little did she know the person I was talking about was her. I felt knives go through my heart every time she tells me stories about this guy, she refused to tell me his name. As time goes by I finally confess and she slaps me, I was scared and felt so guilty, I thought she was going to leave me forever. She then said “you asshole, the guy in my story is you” while crying, and she hugged me. That day was the 29th of August 2017, yesterday was our 1 year anniversary, luckily for us, she is here at UGM.
ReplyDeleteIn August 22nd 2016 Nadia’s mother passed away, and in October 30th 2017 her father passed away, she is a single child with no one to run to, her aunts and uncles are very far from Jogja. Sometimes I feel like I’m all she has left, and I don’t mean to be disrespectful to her family or anything but I really want to take care of her. We meet everyday, and always have dinner together at 8pm at Ayam Geprek Mas Kobis she is the strongest woman I know, she cries every night but I always come to her place when she does and we just walk around almost every night. She makes me want to be a better man, I would never cheat on her and seeing her almost destroyed like that, it really surprises me that she is still holding on. If I was in her position I wouldn’t know what to do, I would maybe even take my own life. However, she makes me fall in love with her so much more everyday, sometimes I think “is this love? Maybe it’s just pity” byt I am very certain that I love her and would do anything for her. She is the reason I want to get married at 20 years old. I wouldn’t plan on having any children yet but I just want to be her official partner both religiously and legally. I want to be in the same house as her, sleep in the same bed every single night, that’s all I want.
ReplyDeleteAll the best for you and nadia, bar!
Deleteloved someone once, at times it was pure bliss and in other times it was sickening and heart-wrenching. At the time, I didn’t fully understand the pros and cons of being in love… scratch that I was a lovesick kid for as long as I can remember. Of course a lot of couple girls made my heart skipped a beat since I was in grade school, but it was only then in middle school when a girl skipped her heart for me too. I always knew dating is not just sunshine and rainbows, but a lot of stormy days as well, but It was only an expectation, I never actually knew how to be a partner of another person. Despite that, I always wanted to try my best at things, so I did. I dated her for about three years, we had some rough arguments that was too much for me to handle and our relationship too tiring for each other. So I decided to call it quits. I used to hate her because of the things she did, but then I remember that we had some wonderful moments together that I could never experienced with another person and I was the one who’s causing the problems. So one day I contacted her and basically said that I want her to be happy and hoped that everything is cool. Our loved died along the way, but I’ll cherish my journey with her forever.
ReplyDeleteI have never experienced in having a special relationship in someone, not even once. But sure, I ever fell in love with someone. Just about this week, something crossed my mind very suddenly. And that something is about love. I thought love is very unique. Love is a mystery. You sometimes don’t know the reason why you love someone, especially your family, of course. That is unconditionally. In odd moments, the reason to love someone can be simple. As simple as he or she is the one who makes you laugh, lights up your day, the person you always find for him or her whenever you feel sad or you feel like you need someone to cheer you up, and can also be as simple as he or she makes your heart beats ten times faster. Some people have their own criteria for their loved ones. The criteria can be about their characteristic, appearance, and etcetera. Nevertheless, you can fall in love with someone unexpected, or can be loved by someone unexpected.
ReplyDeleteLooking at the topic and reading some comments make me smile. Love is unique and sometimes you just don’t know how you got that feeling. The first love that all people has is, off course, to their family. Family is the first thing that we know. Then comes the time where we have feelings for other people. It is funny to see that sometimes you can fall in love with the unexpected. Those feelings can come just by spending time together more frequently. Or knowing that she (or he) lights up your day, making you exited to do your daily activities. You feel happy when you know you are being greeted in the morning or being encouraged to do better. You know your being cared when someone always cheers you up and encourages you even when you have hit rock bottom. So, love can start by just being comfortable to someone and have the feeling of caring to each other.
ReplyDeleteLove is what people say beautiful, toxic, and other words that defines it. To me, love is still a strange word that I do not even know the real actual meaning of it up to this day. I would not say that I am the type of girl that falls in love too easily. I would rather say that it is very difficult for me to move on from someone. I dated someone in the past and I am not even sure if that is what you would call ‘love’. If it was love, then why did I broke up with him? If it was love, then why am I currently dating someone else? These are questions I might never find the answers to. But, I do know a little bit about love. It was when last night my mother covered my body in blanket when I was freezing. It was when she gave me her crackers to eat because she knows I love crackers. It was also when she took my earrings off when I overslept. That is what love to me, that is why she will forever be the love of my life.
ReplyDeleteLove has never been a permanent resident in my heart, and I’m sure neither in anyone’s. Love is an instant gratification some people trade with something worthwhile, whether that something is one’s true friendship, or life goal. Love knocks on the doors of those people who lack either one of them. So when you believe that there is something greater and worth your time more, love’s departure has never been a hard thing to let go as the alternative is always ready to catch you when you fall. The destination you see in front of you as you fly away with love has never been so clear. When all you see is a clear blue sky, one can only hope that love sees it the same way, and not the ocean. When you think you’re soaring through the sky, at the same time you’re plunging your way towards a deep ocean. This however, is not often the case the love’s fault. Sometimes, we were just too joyous with the current situation that we closed our ears for any forms of criticisms. Little did we know, that we unconsciously included our love’s worn out screams warning us of the dangers ahead, into one of those many noises. For those who entered this world of uncertainties with a realistic perspective on life, created seaplanes, and not biplanes. Boats, and not rockets. These people traded their happiness for safety. And through safety, they found a different form of happiness. One that stays.
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ReplyDeleteThe word itself is very universal and omnipresent with ‘I love you’, being one of the most sought after phrases in the world. ‘Love’ is widely depicted in the mainstream culture, in countless stories, movies and songs and due to this, people tend to use this word impulsively. I think that the word love itself devalues overtime. People think that they know ‘love’, but what is it actually? I don’t know much either but quoting David Levithan, “abstraction. Love, is one kind of abstraction.” I do believe that ‘love’ is something very abstract. Different people give different meanings to it. For some people it could be a perplexing puzzle taking a whole lifetime to put together, or a multi-lane highway, in traffic your exit is coming up and you're in the far lane. For some others, ‘love’ is like measles, everyone just gotta go through it but for some others, it’s like a catchy pop song that could turn to an indie sleeper at times. Nothing is certain about it, but an abstract love is better than nothing at all.
I have spent almost a day trying to think of what to write here. This topic is interesting, and I really want to write about love too. Reading all the comments above makes me want to try and put love into words. But turns out it is really difficult for me. What exactly is love? How do you explain love? Love is confusing. For instance, love can’t be measured by time. I have been in several relationships before, with different time period. And the relationship where I truly feel like we connected; where we understood each other completely and were able to balance out the best and the worst in each other, was my relationship that lasted for 6 months, not the one that lasted for 2 years. Maybe it’s because I was still young when I had the 2-year-long relationship, I was still in the 8th grade. But then again, how old we are doesn’t really affect how we love someone, right? A person could be mature enough yet still have their head wrapped around the stereotypical hopeless romance. And someone could be younger but have a more realistic way of looking at love. See, this is what I mean when I say that love is confusing. It’s different for everyone, it’s different every time, and how one person explains love might not be similar to someone else’s. Love is all about our point of view and the way we act towards it.
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ReplyDeleteI think that most people have got it all wrong when it comes to love. They think that they came to this world to master unconditional love. Instead, I think that we came into this world to learn all kinds of love. Through all the years that I’ve lived, I realize that there are more than one kind of love. The first and the most important love is to yourself. Sometimes we forgot to give credit to ourselves and say that yes we are enough. Self-love is not selfish. Self-love is about accepting yourself for who you are. The second type of love is the universal love. A love that you share to all the things in the world, it is the warm feeling that came when you simply see the blue sky or the soaring sea and just being grateful that you are a part of the universe. There are also messy love, crazy love, broken love, and the whole love. I think that we learn from stumbling and messing up. I believe there is no such thing as a perfect love. Because we didn’t came into this world to be perfect, we came into this world to make mistakes and learn from them. For me love doesn’t need the condition of perfection. I think the important thing when it comes to love is to do your best and stay present. Love will make you shine, laugh and cry, hurt and heal, and fall and get back up on your feet. So there are no such thing as a perfect love.
I want to share a love story of a man that is never ever have a girlfriend from the day he was born. I will not share you the detailed long story but let me tell you about the general of it. There was this girl that i met and knew from my Church, and i think she is very cute. Not all people can understand her cuteness, but hey i understand it. So as the time goes by i met and get close to her, very very close. We start to share our deep story about ourself and getting to know each other quiet well. So there was that time when i attended Retreat Encounter from my Church with her and we talked with each other from midnight to 3 a.m and i feel like i was getting closer to her but in that time too i feel some kind of uncertainness. I dont want to share all the detail what kind of exact feeling i get from that momment and after because that “after” is still in this present of time, haha. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteLOVE, what is love actually? That’s the basic question I’ve heard from my friend. These type of question aroused as they faced adversity throughout their relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve also had an unpleasant journey in my love life, hence I can talk about this type of questions toward love. Actually love is simple yet complicated thing to be discussed as every relationship have their unique and distinct journey from one another, meaning love not only about happiness and cheerful stuff. Love sometimes can be meandering, arduous and even painful at times but that’s how a relationship can be strengthen is through those hard times. But there are no problems without a solution, those problems can be solved, how long until the problem can be solved is based on how we respond to those problems. There is one thing that can explain why, even through hard times we still hold on to one person. As Alan Watts a philosopher said once love is an act of faith as we commit oneself to another, and let things get out of control, and normal people want to keep anything under control but it is not the case for love. As Alan Watts said that love is an act of faith, an act of gamble where you give yourself to another human being and let them decide what to do with you, that is why we know the process of getting into a human-undertaking relationship which is love with the term “falling in love” not “rising into love. And it is quite mad it is quite nonsensical. If we go back to the question “What is LOVE?” , I often referred to my favorite series “How I Met Your Mother?” one of the character Ted Mosby once said “…caring about someone beyond all rationality and wanting them to have everything they want no matter how much it destroys you, it’s love. And when you love someone you just,you don’t stop, ever. Even when people roll their eyes, and call you crazy. Even then. Especially then. You just—you don’t give up. Because if I could just give up if I could just, you know, take the whole world’s advice and—and move on and find someone else, that wouldn’t be love. That would be that would be some other disposable thing that is not worth fighting for…”that is one of my favorite lines from the series, an that pretty much explained everything about what is love, actually.
ReplyDeleteLove is inevitable, it is both a blessing and a curse. When we're in love, we often misguided by our fantasies. We can't judge our situation rationally because we often get fooled by love. And sometimes, our fantasies are contradicted with the reality that we have to face. And that cause unstable both emotionally and physically, and it influences our every-day life, and we’re more likely to be hyper-sensitive when we’re in this state of mind. People often misinterpret love, they seem to make a barrier and tend to correlate love to their significant other only. With that being said, I’m here not to talk about my love life, I’m going to talk about the word ‘love’ itself. I see love in every aspect of my life. I love how the yellow flowers on my porch seem to shine when the sunlight greets. I also love how the sun never gets tired to light up this world. And the sun is so selfless, because each night it allows the moon and the stars to take control. I see love every time I look at my dad, how kind and genuine he is, the fact that he worked so hard to get to this point and I was there every step of the way. I just hope one day, the society would stop taking love for granted.
ReplyDeleteEvery people must have a different story of their love relationship. Whether they used to be a best friend, a stranger, or even a colleague. But there is one thing for sure about love that must be the same to everyone; it begins with happiness and always end up in sadness. Whoever people that is in love, they must feel like they were in heaven. Because being loved by someone is truly the greatest feeling in the world. Yet remember, love is just the same as riding a roller coaster; there will always be the ups and downs. So whenever you feel in love, it will feels like you were flying as far as you could touch the sky. But once you were betrayed, then you’ll feel like you would never touch the sky and there will be no more gravity holding you up. It’s like you’re falling deep down under the ground. But that’s okay. Because in the end, you will learned from those things that you’ve done wrong and become a better person in the future. So whenever you gets stuck in the rock bottom because of love, get up, and you will always find a way out.
ReplyDeleteLove is about something that we can’t describe. When we eat a fried rice, we can describe the taste, is it tasty? Is It salty? Or is it sweet? We can describe it clearly. But, when we love someone, how you can describe it? is it because they are beautiful or handsome? Are they cute? I think if it is “yes” it is not about love, but you just like him or her. Like is different from love. Like comes up from what you do, from what you feel, from what you see. You can choose, like it or not. But love? it comes from your deepest heart, you can’t decide, whether you love it or not. Without any reason, they can come, whatever they want. Anyway, most people believe that love comes when you like it. In my opinion, this is true, because when you like something, you tend to spend a lot of time with it, and will eventually get attached. From there, feelings usually grow deeper. For instance, when you like coffee, in a big probability, you will often drink coffee, and try to make it, then, love can come by itself. Thus, what I said, love comes whenever they want and we can know it where it comes. But, we never can define it well or clearly.
ReplyDeleteLove. Some people adore it. Some people don’t. Some people is still questioning about it. What is love? Why does love exist? What is the purpose of love? Where is it?
ReplyDeleteI am one of those people who is still lost in this matter. I used to be a romantic novel maniac and I used to watch tonnes of romantic movies. Those pieces of artwork are great manifestation of how words can seduce people and believe that love is all about that. Almost all the books I’ve read and films I’ve watched have beautiful ending in it. How men talk to women, how men behave to women, how women respond back to men, these days are brought by the tradition of beliefs passed by our parents.
Love is indeed dangerous. Just like what Mikail said, it is toxic. It cost a lot of money, time, and sacrifices. But some people still enjoy it. But is it worth it? I’ve been wondering what will happen if love does not exist at first? Would it be even better?
I’m here to talk about Long Distance Relationship. For me Long Distance Relationship is complicated. I personally have been in a Long Distance Relationship and it’s not going well. What I learned from Long Distance Relationship heartbreak, trust is the most important key, It’s hard when you don’t trust each other, both of you tend to have negative thinking mind and that’s lead to clingy temper, thus you can’t rely on your smartphones and other devices to know what’s your partner is been up to. There are a few ways to make a better bonding and gaining trust Make a good communication with your partner, when you tell something to your partner be as clear as possible to show that you are not hiding something, Have a good attitude of gratitude also important Much long distance relationship end because the distance becomes all the couple can think about. It becomes a painful experience when all they talk about is how awful it is that they can’t be together, how much they miss each other, and how difficult it all is. Watching your partner suffering emotionally is horrible. Many people decide that it’s better to break-up than prolong the agony. When you talk, try to focus on what’s great about your relationship. Don’t wallow in the painful times – you might risk losing it altogether.
ReplyDeleteThe first time I saw this topic, I feel tempted to tell my stories about my love life. Actually, right now as a freshman in college I am having something that you can refer as “Long distance relationship”, because she studies at the university of padjajaran and she takes accounting as her major. To me, long distance relationship will test and show how far will you go for your loved ones. My love story began with meeting this one girl named shabrina. At first glance I know that she is the one for me, strange huh? I don’t know why those feelings just popped in my mind, but since then I knew that love at the sight does exist. Our love story started badly and after a few months she said that she didn’t like my attitude towards her and she said that she didn’t want to talk to me anymore. Since we joined our high school choir, we started talking again after about half a year and my feelings towards her just get stronger and stronger. In my senior year, I wasn’t certain about what major that I am going to take after graduating and she helped me and motivated me through all of that. I felt so lucky to have her and our love grew bigger since then and I wouldn’t dare to hurt her or even leave her. All I know is, love isn’t just all sunshine and rainbows, we’ve been through rough times a lot and after we got over it, all it does is just cherished and grew my love for her even more. I really hope that our love won’t fade and disappear because I do believe that if someone means everything, distance means nothing.
ReplyDeleteLove is something that is very difficult for me to explain. Love can mean a deep feeling for someone, or our love for family, activities, food, and so on. For myself, family is always number 1, especially a mother, my love for mother is a form of eternal love. Apart from family, I love everything that makes me comfortable, starting from the environment of friendship, place of residence, food that suits my taste and so on. And of course as a teenager we must have felt in love with someone in a relationship. I always try to find someone special, which is certainly good, has a positive impact for me. For myself to build a relationship is not difficult, but not as easy as imagined, the most important thing in a relationship is trust and of course support from each other. Never blame love because we eventually break heart, but make a lesson for the future, because love grows without prediction.
ReplyDeleteAfter reading some of the comments, it's interesting how most people depict breaking up as a devastating period of time that wrenches the soul. I guess not all break up aches your heart. I was once in a relationship where I was glad that I ended the relationship. He wasn't my type at all and I felt like our relationship was a waste of time. We weren't on the same page most of the time, and we have a totally different vision for the future. Plus, we were on a long distance relationship and he was really clingy; he wanted me to text him back every few minutes, so we fought in a daily basis because I couldn't reply his messages as often as he expects me to. As soon as we broke up, I felt so relieved. I wasn't sad at all, and to be honest I'd say I felt very happy that I'm finally free. Trust me, being single may be the best choice when you're in an unhappy relationship.
ReplyDeleteI think it’s odd and unfair for us feeling love inside ourselves and people call them with mere words. Feelings deserve more than just words to be explained—they need to be portrayed by illustration, or scientific formula if needed. I’m not one to talk, and my experiences are akin to no experts. If I were to explain love, I would say they could be something like tornado that twirls inside, or even butterflies that fly throughout your system. And heartbreaks are like blades piercing through your skin, but with no blood spilled. At the end of the day, hope would emerge as the result of intersection between desires and reality, and it is wishful thinking with passionate senses imprisoned in your chest at the sight of tomorrow. Love is a combination of ups and downs and everything in the middle. Love is a double-edged sword as it could either kill you or make you alive. Love was, in my case, seeing his back for the first time and uttering his name under my breath like a magic spell.
ReplyDeleteAnd it was only the beginning.
Love is just a complicated word isn't it? People, if they talk about love, there will tears and joys coming out from their mouth. Loving someone is not a simple thing to do people said, but I think it is really that simple. If you love someone, every single thing that we do for our loved ones is a pure act of kindness, it is hard to keep holding on people said but trying to do that is just wrong, if you really love him/her there's no need to keep holding on them, you'll just do it naturally. For me the most important thing about love is the act not the word. The act of kindness, the joy, the help, the laugh that we give to someone is more important than the word love itself. So, our loves is not just for one person we should try to love every single people we knew no matter what.
ReplyDeleteLove is just a complicated word isn't it? People, if they talk about love, there will tears and joys coming out from their mouth. Loving someone is not a simple thing to do people said, but I think it is really that simple. If you love someone, every single thing that we do for our loved ones is a pure act of kindness, it is hard to keep holding on people said but trying to do that is just wrong, if you really love him/her there's no need to keep holding on them, you'll just do it naturally. For me the most important thing about love is the act not the word. The act of kindness, the joy, the help, the laugh that we give to someone is more important than the word love itself. So, our loves is not just for one person we should try to love every single people we knew no matter what.
ReplyDelete• I suck at love, so everyone says. This particular subject can’t be measured, so for most people, particularly me, it sucks. I mean, if it can be measured then people would call it math. But I guess math sucks too. Up until now, I never really had much experience in this area. I know that some people dated several times during their high school, some even fall in love at kindergarten and whatnot. But I rarely had any interest in the opposite sex, not that I am gay of course. Often times, my feelings of love got mixed up by the feelings of admiration. So I can’t really tell which is which. People often say that falling in love can make you 100% nicer, but why can’t you just be a nice person because you wanted to be one? They said that love makes you sacrifice more, but how much sacrifice has to be made for it to be called love? Maybe someday I’ll understand.
ReplyDeleteIn all honesty, I am blind in this kind of topic as I do not think about this topic that much because I feel the affection that I have hugely receive since I was born is enough: from family and friends. Romantic affairs is not a kind of thought that will cross my mind every day as I have so much to live for and I am sincerely happy without relying heavily upon this kind of matter. I do have cherish-able and broken moments. However, I thrive for happiness from other things far more rather than focusing on love affairs as I do not believe it must be my centre of attention for now.
ReplyDeleteI may be ignorant in regards to receiving channelled feelings toward me, and I am honestly unintended to do so as I am openly insensitive with romance and I am not ashamed nor proud. People say I am a kind of person if I have found the right one, it will stick with me for an extended period, but we will see.
I would like to share my perspective on love as well as experience in my current relationship. Being in love with someone has brought a certain kind of journey and impact to my life, in a sense that I develop characters within myself that I didn't have before. In other words, my character has improved. Because by being in love and committed into a relationship, I ought to be a person that is more patience, unselfish, reliable, in order to have a stable relationship. To be a good listener and a supportive person are also the qualities that I develop by being in a relationship. Other thing that I want to mention is that if I were to face some problems in a relationship, I constantly try to think not only in my point of view, but also through my partner's, so that tiresome dispute can be avoided. I am indeed grateful because I get to be in a relationship that is not damaging my personal growth.
ReplyDeleteLove, is a really complex thing. Beautiful, scary, painful, exquisite and so on. There are thousands of words that can describe that word depending to who you ask. Speaking of love, my girl friend’s mom always telling me that, “everybody have a problem that can’t be compared with others.”. That one sentence changed my whole life and my point of view about love. I used to be a not-so-gentleman man. Sometimes I tell a story to my friend about my love life, and can be demanding and desperate for answer for my love life. After I heard that sentence I realized that I’m the only person who can solve my problem. Telling my friends about my problem is not going to make my problem go away and be done. By the way this principle is only applied for this particular problem. The song that saying love is just a game for two is one-hundred percent true. I always recommend people who has trouble with their love life to talk about it directly with partner. For some people it may be different but for me its always work. That’s a little tips from me, I hope it can help you all. Thank you so much.
ReplyDeleteThere are three teachers with us as the disciple in life. Those are Time, Death, and Love. Where Time tells us that time is an illusion yet is real, and Death is known as a sad ending and not a liberation. But Love is the one that will be discussed furthermore in this writing. As years passed in front of my eyes, I found that love is the thing that keep you still holding on to this life. I just found a love from a girl who felt betrayed by the love before. It was hard to make her realize that love is existing not for hurting anyone, it exists to make everything make sense. Then suddenly I am everything to her. But realize that I cannot love her the same way she does. As I mentioned before, Death is known as a sad ending while it should be a liberation. As I grow up my motivation is getting less and I feel like a lost wanderer in a river headed to a place where I was heading before. Yet I am supported by the Time who keep telling me that it is no different if Death coming soon or later. If Love exists to keep you holding on to life then I don’t know for how long does Love could make me stay.
ReplyDeleteWhat is love? It’s really a complicated thing to begin with. Love means sacrifice, loyalty, commitment, and it also includes freedom. To feel love means to invest your whole being to anything with commitment, but it doesn’t limit your freedom. Love is not a substance, not a commodity, not even a marketable power resource. Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output. Love is also not a ownership, the more we control others to love, the easier we lose that person. Love will make you feel like you can do anything with your outmost effort, and sincerity will always be with everything you do. In my opinion, love is one of the most important things in live. Without love our lives will be hollow or empty. Love is a powerful force that can transform and change in which we found ourselves. Love can also motivate a person to work harder and drive a person to do whatever he wanted in life.
ReplyDeleteI want to share my opinion about love which refers to love in between a couple. Well, I believe that everybody has his/her own type of partner that they want to be with. But the fact is, once you fall in love to someone, your type of girl/boy that you dream of will just disappear automatically. Why? It is simply because the real and the truest love doesn’t look at what he/she looks like, or how is his/her personality like. It is more like you just feel it without even realizing it. I think, that is why there is a quote that said “love is blind”. So basically, you cannot choose who you will fall in love to and also you cannot control and even stop your feeling to someone you love. And what I trust until now is that once you fall in love, you just cannot deny it. Relating to that, I think destiny also takes part in making this thing works and that is why there is also a quote that said if it is meant to be, it will be.
ReplyDeleteI had my own experience in relationship with my high school ex-lover. He is a really mature, generous, and kind-hearted boy. He is not so tall and so skinny compared to other boys in my school. What I really liked about him was his sense of humor. He was really my type guy because he was so funny and always made me laugh. But there was one thing that I always think about, we have different religion. I know it sounds so pathetic and seems like there is no way out to this kind of problem but we still couldn’t deny our feelings. At first, I tried so hard not to fall in love with him, and he did too, but nothing that we could do because we both were stuck in love. We both felt sad because we knew how our relationship would end. Until one night, there was a misunderstanding between me and him so we decided to end our relationship because anyway we cannot be together later on. It is so sad for me either for him, but we have to be realistic.
ReplyDeleteTo be honest, as a 17-year-old girl, I still don't know what love is. Love is very abstract to me that I cannot describe it. The word is easy to say, but harder to know what it means. I agree that it’s a feeling that is inexplicable. People say that you will feel it when you love someone, but how can you know that it is not just a crush? Sometimes we are convinced that we love someone, but do we? Some people say that love is beautiful, but some say that it is dangerous. Until now, I keep on wondering which one is right; is it beautiful, or is it dangerous? To be honest, at some point, I feel like I don’t deserve to leave a more than 150 words comment on this post since I know nothing about this topic, but my view as a 17-year-old girl is that the word ‘love’ is so abstract and is still blurry in my mind, that I cannot describe what it is.
ReplyDeleteWhen I heard about the word ‘love’, there are three things that come to my mind: my parent, brother and best friend. I believe that love is a mutual feeling. I’m that type of person that hesitate to express my feeling towards others. In this new environment away from my loved ones, I found it hard to survive. They are my number one support system and no one able to replace it. Although, most teenagers tend to have romantic relationships. Personally, I am not interested in those kind of relationships yet. I choose to share my feelings to people that actually care and know me well. In addition, I don’t trust people easily so it is difficult to find a significant other that would suit me well. I rather have a lot of friends than to be depend on one person that eventually will lead to some kind of disappointment.
ReplyDeleteLove is a very strong and powerful word. To be honest, as long as I live I never really think about love. For me personally, having a relationship and loving someone is a very serious matter. It is pretty hard for me to open up my heart and trusting a new people to be in relationship with me because I was kind of feel like I’m scared of being betrayed by someone that I loved so much. I see a lot of my friends changing partners and find a new boyfriend/girlfriend easily in a short period of time. It seems that they enjoyed it and be happy about it. Watching my friend relationship kind of make me wondering how could they be very easy to open up their life to someone that we could say stranger. Actually, it’s pretty hard for me to be open up about my life to someone. I need to believe the person first and it takes a long time for me to believe in someone.
ReplyDeleteLet me tell you a story that makes me believe that true love really does exist. Since I was a kid, I had been admiring my grandparents so much. They taught me a lot about things in life through their tough life story. My grandfather was a principal of a senior high school in Jogja, and my grandmother was an English teacher of another senior high school in Jogja. They both came from a little family from Solo, and coincidence, they pursue their dreams to be a teacher in Jogja. They met in one event of teachers gathering, and my grandfather just fell in love in a sight. These past sixteen years I had spent with both of them, were filled with joy and sincere love that I saw from how they treat each other. My grandfather had been leaving us for the past three years. Leaving my grandmother alone in Jogja.
ReplyDeleteHe had already been sick for about four years. He had a kidney failure that required him to do hemodialysis for twice a week. My grandmother had always been there for him. Often she became sick, my grandfather takes turn to take care of her the other way around. I’m staying with my grandmother now, and until this day, I can still see that she still loves him that much from the way she never missed a day without talking about him. Every single thing that is being talked about, she connected it to “how he was back then”. She still takes care of his bedroom and his stuff. She prays for him every day, goes to his cemetery twice a month. I believe they both are true love. True love that makes each other happy and just being with each other makes the best of themselves. So, yeah, they are the reason why I believe true love.
DeleteWhat is love? Love is such a strong word and the feeling itself is also very powerful. I don’t think I have ever fallen in love with anyone. Some boys might have made my heart skipped a beat and made me feel very special – but it was not love. Perhaps it is because I never take my previous relationships seriously. But I do not take them seriously because I do not love them; I just cared for them. I believe someone you love is someone who you would want to spend the rest of your life with. If you do not see a future with the person you are currently in a relationship with, then why would you agree to continue the relationship because you know that at the end you will not be together anyway? It will only hurt you and your partner and you are only wasting time and energy.
ReplyDeleteAs I don’t know which article to comment anymore, I will talk about my love life. I’ve never been very good with long term relationships so I’m going to talk about my longest relation that lasted about 4 months. Last year, when I was an exchange student in Chile, I went to Bolivia for about 10 days with a group of friends. One of my friends came with her roommate who was Spanish and also an exchange student. During this trip I got on really well with that boy and we always had a lot of fun. So, when we came back to Santiago, we started to see each other more often and began a romantic relationship. The exchange semester ended and we both went to travel separately for about 5 weeks during which we only saw each other during 4 days in Buenos Aires and for his last day in Chile. After that we both came back to our countries and continued talking very often and he came to see me in France for my birthday. The week end he came to France was really great, but we chose to stop our relationship as the distance was to difficult to deal with. Now we are good friends and still talk together quite often.
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