Herr and Madame, Señor and Mrs
Research at last begins to cast some light on the extent, causes and consequences of cross-border marriages
The Economist
If Shakira, a Colombian pop star, marries her boyfriend, the Spanish national footballer Gerard Piqué, the only unusual things about it would be that she is even more famous than he is and ten years older. Otherwise, theirs would be just a celebrity example of one of the world’s biggest social trends: the rise of international marriages—that is, involving couples of different nationalities.
A hundred years ago, such alliances were confined to the elite of the elite. When Randolph Churchill married Jennie Jerome of New York, it seemed as if they had stepped from the pages of a Henry James novel: brash, spirited American heiress peps up the declining fortunes of Britain’s aristocracy. Now, such alliances have become almost commonplace. To confine examples to politicians only: the French president Nicolas Sarkozy is married to the Italian-born Carla Bruni and his prime minister François Fillon has a Welsh wife, Penelope Clarke. Nelson Mandela is married to Graça Machel (from Mozambique). Denmark’s new prime minister Helle Thorning-Schmidt is married to a Briton, Stephen Kinnock. And two leading ladies of Asian countries, Aung San Suu Kyi of Myanmar and India’s Sonia Gandhi, are both widows from international marriages. In rich countries alone such unions number at least 10m.

International marriages matter partly because they reflect—and result from—globalisation. As people holiday or study abroad, or migrate to live and work, the visitors meet and marry locals. Their unions are symbols of cultural integration, and battlefields for conflicts over integration. Few things help immigrants come to terms with their new country more than becoming part of a local family. Though the offspring of such unions may struggle with the barriers of prejudice, at their best international marriages reduce intolerance directly themselves, and indirectly through their progeny.
The mists over marriage
So it is all the more disappointing that until recently so little has been known about these unions. Records are patchy. Some countries do not collect annual information about the citizenship of couples. Official figures may say nothing about a marriage if it takes place abroad (for example in the country of the immigrant spouse).
Defining what counts as international is tricky too. A wedding of a local man and a foreign-born bride is easy. But the marriage of two foreigners in a third country sometimes counts and sometimes doesn’t. Trickiest of all is how to treat the marriage of a second-generation immigrant who has citizenship of a host country (say, the child of a Moroccan in France or a Mexican in America). If such a person marries a native Frenchwoman or an American, that usually does not count as international, even though it is an alliance across ethnic lines. Perversely, if he marries a girl from his parents’ country of origin, that does count as international—but this is not a marriage across an ethnic divide and may indicate isolation not assimilation.
Belatedly, answers to these questions of scale and definition are coming, chiefly thanks to the efforts of the International Union for the Scientific Study of Population (IUSSP), a professional association of demographers, and, especially, of Doo-Sub Kim, a professor at Hanyang University in Seoul who chairs its panel on cross-border marriages. Global figures remain sketchy, but marriage patterns in Asia and Europe, at least, are becoming clearer. Some tentative, often surprising, conclusions are emerging.
Asia is the part of the world where cross-border marriages have been rising most consistently. According to Gavin Jones of the National University of Singapore, 5% of marriages in Japan in 2008-09 included a foreign spouse (with four times as many foreign wives as husbands). Before 1980, the share had been below 1%. In South Korea, over 10% of marriages included a foreigner in 2010, up from 3.5% in 2000. In both countries, the share of cross-border marriages seems to have stabilised lately, perhaps as a result of the global economic slowdown. The country with the biggest share of such unions is Taiwan, where 13% of wives in 2009 were foreigners, about the same level as in 1998, but a big fall from the peak in 2003, when 28% of all weddings involved a foreign-born wife. Chinese citizens are not considered foreigners in Taiwan and if you include marriages in which they are one of the spouses, the proportion is still higher. International marriages have played a significant role in modifying the ethnic homogeneity of all these East Asian countries.

International marriages are common in much of Europe, too. Calculations by Giampaolo Lanzieri, an Italian demographer, show that in France the proportion of international marriage rose from about 10% in 1996 to 16% in 2009. In Germany, the rise is a little lower, from 11.3% in 1990 to 13.7% in 2010. Some smaller countries have much higher levels. Nearly half the marriages in Switzerland are international ones, up from a third in 1990. Around one in five marriages in Sweden, Belgium and Austria involves a foreign partner.
The Mamma Mia factor
The rate seems to be rising fastest in Mediterranean countries: in Spain and Italy, cross-border marriages accounted for less than 5% of the total in 1995; by 2009, the share had reached 14% in Italy and 22% in Spain. Cyprus is a special case: no less than three-quarters of marriages there in 2009 were international (up from half in 1995). But that is because Venus’s birthplace has a thriving wedding-and-honeymoon market. Many couples from abroad wed there.
In most developing countries, the share of men married to foreign women was less than 2% in 2000 (0.7% in Ghana and Bolivia; 0.2% in Colombia and the Philippines; 3.3% in South Africa). In contrast, three rich countries—America, Britain and France—account for half the total in the sample. America alone has a third. Because it is so large, though, the share of international marriage remains low: only 4.6% of Americans were married to a foreigner in 2010, up from 2.4% in 1970.
Albert Esteve of the Autonomous University of Barcelona reckons that the total number of cross-border marriages among 25-39-year-olds in his sample was about 12m in 2000. The sample excludes several countries with large numbers of such unions—Japan, Taiwan, Australia and Canada—so the grand total is certainly higher, probably 15m, possibly more. Compared with the very roughly 500m marriages within that age group round the world, 15m may not seem like much. But it is more than it used to be and, in some countries—senders and recipients of foreign spouses alike—the growth in cross-border marriages is having a significant social impact.
Everywhere, cross-border marriage rises with migration, but more slowly. According to Mr Esteve’s figures, the correlation is roughly one international marriage for every two new migrants. That would seem to mean that half of new migrants are marrying into their host society and the other half (presumably) into their own communities. So a surge in immigration usually leads to only a more modest rise in cross-border marriages; the process is slower and more complex.
Research into four European countries by Suzana Koelet of the Free University of Brussels and others confirms that international marriages have not risen as much as one might have expected in Europe. On her calculations, rates of marriages with a person from another European Union country have been flat in Belgium and the Netherlands since 2000 and shown only a modest rise in Spain. Marriage rates between Swiss and EU citizens have also not budged. True, marriages with foreigners have increased sharply in Spain—but that was because of a spurt of marriages with non-EU citizens: Spain had huge immigration flows from Latin America during the 1990s and 2000s. By implication, the closer integration that the EU is supposed to be bringing about seems to be having no discernible impact on the marriage choices of Dutch, Belgian and Spanish citizens.
Why not? For part of the explanation, Ms Koelet points to the intriguing marriage patterns of the Swiss. The country has one of the highest rates of international marriage in the world (surpassed only by Liechtenstein, Luxembourg and Cyprus). But the Swiss “marry out” in particular ways. The German-speaking Swiss marry largely neighbouring Germans; the Francophone Swiss marry the French; Italian-speakers marry Italians. It is the same with Belgians: Flemish-speakers tend to marry Dutch partners, Walloons marry French people. Language, it appears, remains a persistent barrier to international marriage in Europe and the spread of English as a second language does not seem to have changed that.
Asia is different. In Europe and America, marriage tends to follow migration. In Asia, people marry to migrate. Marriages in South Korea, for example, are often arranged by a broker in an unromantic process that takes two or three days and costs the Korean groom $20,000-30,000. Similarly, Taiwan has many marriages between its male citizens and Vietnamese women. The growth began when Taiwanese companies started investing in Vietnam.
Local men in such countries, Mr Jones argues from Singapore, look for foreign brides for two reasons. First because of the so-called “marriage strike” affecting some East Asian societies. In the richer countries of East and South-East Asia, like Japan, Singapore, South Korea and Taiwan, a third or more of local women are not marrying; and those who do wed late, at 31 or 32. This is causing some men to look to foreign shores for potential mates. The other reason—specific to a few Asian societies—is because a combination of traditional preference for sons and the availability of sex-selective abortion skewed the sex ratio at birth 20 years ago, leaving too few native-born women now. South Korea is an example. In 1990, it had 117 boys born for every 100 girls. Men are looking abroad to plug the gap in their local marriage market.
Hard noses, not soft hearts
For their part, the young women, often from poor areas of China and Vietnam, are looking for economic opportunities. Marriage with a man from a richer country is seen as a means of advancement and a way of helping their families at home. In Asia, it seems, cross-border unions are products of distorted local marriage markets; in Europe, they are results of gaps in labour markets that encourage migration. In both parts of the world, diasporas play a role: as immigrants settle down they encourage friends and family from back home to follow in their footsteps.
Many Asian men also seem to be looking abroad for wives in the hope that immigrant women will bear them more children. This indeed happens in Europe and America: the fertility rate of new immigrants is higher than average, though it reverts to the local mean within a few years. So at first, migration adds to the birth rate. Strangely, this higher initial fertility does not seem to happen in Asia, or at least not in South Korea. According to Kwang-hee Jun of Chungnam National University, non-naturalised immigrant women have on average just 1.08 children—even fewer than native Koreans, whose average is 1.79.
This finding was a shock and a puzzle. Why are immigrants in South Korea behaving so differently from those in Europe and America? One explanation may be that the age gaps between husbands and much younger wives discourage large families. Another is that in the past decade, about 60% of foreign brides have come from China, where the fertility rate is also low, especially among Chinese of Korean ethnicity. Jungho Kim of Ajou University also suggests poverty. Both spouses will usually work and may be unable to afford to bring up a child in a society where half of the cost of pre-school education comes from the household budget. Evidence for this comes from families with a Vietnamese-born bride: when they do have children, says Danièle Bélanger of the University of Western Ontario, they send some of them back to be raised for a few years by grandparents in Vietnam, where schooling is cheaper.
Victims or opportunists?
Victims or opportunists?
Marriage between girls from poor countries and older men from rich ones are controversial. As Sang-lim Lee of the International Organisation of Migration centre in Goyang says, when men pay the brides’ family “they tend to think they have bought a good. If it has a defect, they think they can send it back.”
It is certainly true that the men tend to be older, often much older. Doo-Sub Kim finds that Korean husbands are on average 17 years older than their Vietnamese-born brides. They usually have around three years’ more education as well. One fifth of Korean husbands have been married before. All this is very different from the typical pattern in native Korean marriages.
It is also true that some young women are victims of cruelty, neglect, physical abuse and trafficking. Women in strange countries are almost always vulnerable. A Vietnamese interpreter married to a Korean man complains that “if I run away here, my parents will be embarrassed in Vietnam.” That, she explains, would leave her unable to return home, but with “no place to go here”. The media in Vietnam tend to portray migrant brides either as victims of trafficking or people driven by desperate poverty to migrate. Children of international marriages in South Korea have more health problems than average. In Taiwan, they do less well at school—something that occurs in European countries, too.
Yet this is not the dominant pattern, still less the sole one. International marriages often seem to work for the couple involved—at least if the longevity of their union is any guide. And they seem to have social benefits, as well as costs, for both receiving and sending countries.
Though the gap in background, age and education between spouses in international marriages is greater than in those between compatriots, it does not seem to affect these unions’ durability. Doo-Sub Kim plotted the time that cross-border marriages have lasted in South Korea against the couples’ ages and educational backgrounds. Amazingly, the bigger the difference, the longer the marriage. It is hard to know why this should be. Maybe those who marry foreigners invest more in their marriages. Or maybe younger, poorer wives find it harder to leave.
Vietnamese girls are seen in much of Asia as the paradigm of the submissive foreign bride. But a study of their role in Taiwan by Ms Bélanger shows that many are married to men whose companies trade with Vietnam—and they are vital to the companies’ future. As one man told her, revealingly: “I have six trusted subordinates. One is my wife. One is her younger sister. They will not betray me.” Remittances to their families help keep the practice alive in Vietnam, even though many young men there dislike it and say they have been driven out of their villages by the shortage of brides and forced to migrate to Hanoi and Ho Chi Minh City. Similarly, marriage abroad is seen as so desirable by the Punjabi diaspora that the press in Punjab is full of advertisements offering to arrange marriages abroad.
Not all international marriages in Asia are those of poor brides in rich lands. In a “reverse migration” Japanese women from rich Tokyo have married into poor peasant families in South-East Asia—especially in Bali and Thailand—and settled down to live a more “authentic” rural life, perhaps as a way of escaping the strictness of Japanese family life. That same impulse may well be behind the surprising growth in the numbers of Japanese women married to Africans in Japan (probably as many as 3,300 in all). As one wife told Djamila Schans of Maastricht University, “I had doubts marrying a foreigner but he waited for me at the station every day. Sometimes even with flowers! A Japanese man would never do such a thing.”
Governments impose restrictions in the belief that cross-border marriages can destabilise their societies. Sometimes, their fears are understandable. In Taiwan, the share of international marriages doubled in five years. But such rapid change is highly unusual. By and large, marriage between people of different nationalities has grown more slowly than immigration. In the past few years, the increase in marriage has slowed further, probably reflecting global economic problems.
International marriages are often attacked as exploitative, because they typically take place between an older richer man and a younger, less well-educated woman from a poor country. Terrible examples of abuse do exist. Yet the evidence suggests that international marriages often last longer than average and that migrant wives come to play important roles in their husband’s host country.
Marriage remains, for the most part, an institution that promotes economic improvement and personal happiness. It also tends to boost social assimilation—the main exception being when a second-generation immigrant weds a girl from a village his parents had left long before. Over the next few years, international marriage is likely to continue its quiet upward crawl. Governments should protect its victims—but not prevent the process.
I will find the link to this. It's an article from The Economist.
Once I came across an article that mentioned, "Perhaps in the near future, most people will have a mixed race." This makes sense because the trend for migration is constantly increasing as people are seeking for better opportunities in other countries, or simply just to seek for new experience. Let's take an example of people in the European Union; they are free to migrate across countries as long as they are in the Schengen area, hence they will be more likely to meet people from other nationalities. This makes it possible for them to actually meet new people and fall in love; which may lead to marriage. I also think that nowadays people become more open-minded and start to mingle with everyone regardless of their race, which is different compared to the old days where people still prioritize in finding a partner with the same cultural background. This kind of relationship is actually depicted in the recent movie called Crazy Rich Asian where a mother despises her son's girlfriend because she is not considered as "kaki lang" which means "from the same kind", but ends up blessing her son's relationship because she realized that she needs to put her son's joy first.
ReplyDeleteAyasha wrote: "This makes sense because the trend for migration is constantly increasing as people are seeking for better opportunities in other countries, or simply just to seek for new experience."
DeleteWe "look for" things (using the preposition "for) but we "seek" things (no preposition).
Ayasha wrote: "This kind of relationship is actually depicted in the recent movie called Crazy Rich Asian where a mother despises her son's girlfriend because she is not considered as "kaki lang" which means "from the same kind", but ends up blessing her son's relationship because she realized that she needs to put her son's joy first."
DeleteIs it a good movie? Does it depict (realistically) any other aspects of how things are "nowadays" in Asia?
I guess international marriages shows that love has no boundaries. The modern world slightly takes part on bringing this to happen. You can connect to anyone in the world, building relationships online with someone thousand kilometers away. And now that travelling is easier, you can just ‘chase your love’ to wherever he/she lives in. But marriage is a whole different thing. Some consider marriage as a very huge process. It’s where two lovebirds decide to tie the knot, vowing to always love and care each other for eternity. Marriage is about commitment, choosing to settle to one person and forgetting the world before them. But not everyone actually marries out of love. It recites here in the article that there are also the people who marry someone for other intentions, such as economic opportunities. I see that there’s a phenomenon here in Indonesia that there’s this tendency of a local woman to marry a ‘bule’ or a foreigner. I think this builds a wrong mindset to people, especially woman, that you should marry or love someone based on their race. Marriage should be about loving a person whoever they are, wherever they come from and choosing to always stay for them through thick and thin, until death do them apart.
ReplyDeleteFat wrote: "It recites here in the article that there are also the people who marry someone for other intentions, such as economic opportunities. I see that there’s a phenomenon here in Indonesia that there’s this tendency of a local woman to marry a ‘bule’ or a foreigner. I think this builds a wrong mindset to people, especially woman, that you should marry or love someone based on their race."
DeleteWhat you are arguing here is not 100% clear to me; you are saying that there has been a tendency among Indonesian women to enter into international marriages for "economic opportunities" - so who is it who's looking at this and thinking "...you should marry or love someone based on their race"?
Note some changes I have made to your text:
"It argues here in the article that there are also the people who marry someone with other intentions such as economic opportunities. I see that there’s a phenomenon here in Indonesia where there’s a tendency among local women to marry a ‘bule’ or a foreigner. I think this builds a wrong mindset, especially among women, that you should marry or love someone based on their race."
Further note: I wouldn't exaggerate how many international marriages there are in Indonesia. I suspect that such marriages make up a tiny proportion of those taking place and yet seem statistically significant because of their visibilty and through anecdotal 'evidence'.
In my opinion, International marriage consumes a lot of time, money, and effort during preparation. You’ll need longer time to prepare because of embassy papers, legal concerns, print up, registration, etc. Let alone wedding preparation; it also demands sacrifices. You and your partner will stake both of your career, family, friends because you needed to follow your husband or wife to live together. If either of you hasn’t gotten any suitable job in your partner’s country both of you always feel useless and lonely. I think the language barrier is not a problem, but the communication is. Miss communication can quickly ruin your relationship because it will lead to fighting, learning about your partner’s culture is another problem. It usually happens when you and your partner’s culture differences are too significant. Oh, and we haven’t talked about kids yet. They surely will get confused which culture to accept. And you both probably won’t be happy if one of our kids don’t choose our nationality.
ReplyDeleteDaiva wrote: "Miss communication can quickly ruin your relationship because it will lead to fighting, learning about your partner’s culture is another problem."
DeleteIt's "miscommunication", one word and note the spelling. Also, between "fighting" and "learning", it can't be a comma because you cannot join two independent clauses in this way. You need to use a full stop or, perhaps, even better: a semi colon.
Since my aunt is married with an American guy, I would love to talk about the article. In this comment, I will talk more from the perspective of communication and cultural differences. From what I learn this far, I think that international marriage may require more mental preparations than marriages with national partner. They need to not just realise but also understand the cultural differences between them to be able to communicate efficiently. They should also find out if there is something in the future partner's culture that could be difficult to bear for them and try to find a solution together. Other than that, they should consider on cultivating both cultures/languages for the goods of their children and figuring out ways to do that. Lastly, they should make sure they are both okay with where they are planning to live. By applying all of these, I am sure miscommunication will be less occurred and could highly maintain their relationship health. All in all, I do not find anything wrong about international marriage and besides, if you can get the chance to explore more about the world through learning about your partner’s culture, why not?
ReplyDeleteToba wrote: "From what I learn this far..."
DeletePresent pefect tense needed here.
"From what I have learned this far...". I also think "so" sounds better than "this".
Toba wrote: "By applying all of these, I am sure miscommunication will be less occurred and could highly maintain their relationship health."
DeleteCompare yours to mine:
"By applying all of these, I am sure miscommunication will occur less and could maintain the health of their relationship very well."
Toba wrote: "Other than that, they should consider cultivating both cultures/languages for the good of their children and figuring out ways to do that." [Edited]
ReplyDeleteI have been in an international marriage for 25 years. Both our sons speak both Indonesian and English. This has been achieved by my wife speaking to me and our children in Indonesian and me speaking to her and our children in English. My children generally - maybe not 100% - speak to their mother in Indonesian and to me in English. I never deliberately speak to my sons in Indonesian (although I do accidentally sometimes). However, something I have noticed which I find quote curious is that my wife sometimes talks to the boys in English when she is angry! What's that all about? Ha ha.
I think that International marriage is a great thing that come out of the globalization. I think that it has been a quite common phenomenon in Europe for some generations now. At least in France, where most of my friends and family have international origins, most of all Spanish, Italian, Portuguese and from North Africa. Concerning what is written in the article about the increasing proportion of international marriages in France, I think that an important fact that should be taken into account is that the total number of marriages in France decreases a lot. International couple may tend to marry more for one of the spouses to obtain the citizenship (if he is not from an European country). So, maybe the number of international marriages didn’t increase that much, but the proportion in total marriages is just bigger because of the smaller number of weddings involving two French people.
ReplyDeleteConcerning what is happening in some Asian countries, the fact that some women from low social classes marry older men from richer countries, I think that it is really sad and that economic reasons are not the right reasons to marry someone. However, this also happens in Europe. While I was travelling around Eastern Europe this summer, I met some Ukrainian people that explained me what is happening in their country. There exist some websites that are making a lot of money out of putting in relation Ukrainian girls and foreign men, most of all from Germany and the United States. Basically, a man pays to be introduced to some Ukrainian women, usually younger. The men are interested in Ukrainian women because of their beauty but also because in Ukraine, women are commonly taught how to be a “good wife”, and the women want a western husband because they are looking for better living conditions.
ReplyDeleteI think that international marriages are the result of globalization. With more opportunity to work and travel abroad it seems more probable that people would find someone from another country to love. These kinds of marriages, I believe, are quite difficult to start off and more so if the countries are in different continents.
ReplyDeleteThe couple would have to make many compromises for it to succeed. Deciding where to live, how to find a job, how to raise the children, learning to adjust to the local culture. These are some factors and questions to consider when getting married as some of them concern legal actions, like obtaining special permits, and some affect the future of the household. There are of course more factors but this shows how difficult it is to get the ball rolling in such a relationship.
But I think after crossing a certain mental barrier the relationship should be fine and could go like any other relationship would.
Our society if viewed from time to time has changed dramatically, in terms of social, economic and cultural point of view. The effects of globalization has placed people in the position to interact with people from various background all over world. This of course puts them to exchange information regarding social, economic and cultural situations. From here relationships then start to form and eventually marriages may form. The act of getting to know one another of course is not limited to interactions through the internet. I once read an article and it predicted that in the future the will be no one "pure race" but the world will be of a "mixed" race background. In my opinion it is fine as love has no limitations in the sense that it is still morally correct. But more thought has to be put in place for mixed race marriages to happen. Things such as cultural differences have to be paid attention to in specific. Because the daily routines we do come from our cultures and there needs to be time for the couple to adapt into each other.
ReplyDeleteIn this globalizations era, it has become very simple, and easy to meet people from all around the world with different race or cultural backgrounds through the internet or migration, even sometimes many people fall in love with someone through the internet. So for me internet plays a big role in international marriage since internet can help to connect people from far away and support long distance relationship through the internet services. Eventhough the internet can help international marriages to happen, the relationships is particularly challenging because when two people enter into international marriage, they need to consider important factors in relationship such as linguistic, family acceptance, financial, immigration, and relocation, but the biggest obstacles are culture and language difference because its important in a relationship. So, before international marriage happens, the couples must be well-prepared in order to face this challenge in order to avoid unwanted problems that may occur in the relationship.
ReplyDeleteInternational marriage could be seen in many perspectives. We all know that it surely has a lot of positive outcome, but the negative ones cannot be denied either. Our country, Indonesia, is such a contradictive country consisting contradictory people living in it. So, the idea of international marriage can be seen as a brilliant idea, or in the contrary really bad. It is of course the result of globalization, where nowadays people can exchange their own thoughts just in a second, with anybody, at any ages, in any countries. The idea of people could be falling in love “online” seems very futuristic and unreachable, but see, it’s here now. I personally don’t disagree with the international marriage because seeing from the positive outcome which can broaden the family’s range of nationality, it is a really great idea. For the couple who will choose where their house will be located, and about their children’s first language, will also make some positive outcomes as it’s actually will train people’s cerebration and decision making.
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ReplyDeleteMarriage is a commitment, which requires a huge sacrifice from both parties. Is about forgetting about yourself and share the rest of your life with someone that might be different as you. In my opinion, marrying someone from another culture is even a harder challenge because of the differences in values and behaviors. We grow up in a certain culture, we receive our values from our parents at home, and we start to behave based on what we have learned. Now, starting a life with a person who are used to others values, in my opinion, should be more challenging and requires of a more open-minded person. I have share a house with Germans while my studies and I have to say, it was not that easy as I though but I am pretty sure when is the person you love, then you fight for make it work and find a balance between both cultures.
Maybe Mr. Adrian can share more with us about this topic! :)
DeleteI found international marriages to be highly interesting, for I myself have been thinking about it for a while. I have been fond of foreign women ever since I was a child and have dreamt about having an international marriage. Yet, according to the law of Indonesia; marriage is only permitted to those with the same faith and nationality. It has been doubted for decades here whether international marriages are allowed. Most people who has an international marriages do it abroad or having to make ‘certain negotiations’ with the government officials. Yet, globally it is becoming more common as we live in a highly integrated world. And what I find most interesting is the offspring. Children born from an interracial marriages is often thought to be beautiful and special in Indonesia and trough out South East Asia. Yet in some countries such as Japan and United States, they are being discriminated for being biracial or even multiracial.
ReplyDeleteInternational marriages occur quite often in Indonesia. Usually, it happens in Bali, Lombok, and many other international tourists destinations. the reasons for international marriage vary in Indonesia. Some would say it is because love, some would say it is because they are offered a marriage contract. There is a saying that states "Love is blind" and for me, it is very applicable to the international marriage situation. It is blind because international marriages doesn't consider the factor of same race marriage, and the Indonesian law of marriage stating "Marriage is only permitted to those with the same faith and nationality." Other than that, It is odd to see people get married because of a contract. This case happens mostly with Arabians in Puncak. Arabians would offer a marriage contract while they are being a resident here in Indonesia. I was told by my driver at that time. It is interesting because this shows how an emotional bond between 2 people can somehow be bought with money. The case may not be ethical, but it is real.
ReplyDeleteInternational marriage is an interesting topic to be discuss. One of the reasons is that this type of marriage usually doesn’t last long especially in Indonesia. One of the reasons is the difference of culture that they have, and also the moral values that they believe are different. Most of the foreigners usually get married to Indonesian women because they wanted to get assets in Indonesia. This case mostly happens in Jepara, because the furniture businessman wants to have assets there and to expand the business while, the regulation is that foreigners cannot have assets in Indonesia except, if they got married to Indonesian women. But, not all international marriage gives bad impact. Some gives good impact like, when their children have grown up, they will have more tolerance and diverse to differentiation, their language will be more advance than their parents and the last is that their child will have freedom in choosing their nationalities.
ReplyDeleteThe number of international marriages is increasing and I personally think this is a good sign. The reason behind the previously made statement is that it shows inter-racial barriers are slowly fading away; more people are starting to develop tolerance towards races and cultures that are not their own. For the past few years, many people were against inter-racial marriage because they say that it won’t end up well due to cultural differences therefore the relationship would not last long. But I argue that inter-racial marriages could actually build a stronger relationship because the couple can learn new things from each other and they could overcome problems in different ways as they come from different background. Love is blind – it does not see the race. When two parties are committed to make a relationship work, then hopefully it will. They will be together through thick and thin, ups and downs.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, in some countries; for example Qatar, there are still laws that prevent a local citizen to marry someone of different nationality. They say it is because they want to maintain or perhaps increase the number of “pure Qataris” as Qatar has a very small number of local citizens. This has actually made some people suffer because the love of their lives might be someone of a different race but they could not marry them by law. This should not be happening – there should not be a law that prevents someone from marrying their significant other. People should be allowed to marry whoever they want and whoever they think is right for them. Others cannot simply think that international relationships would not work out well because it is the couple that goes through the relationship so it is their rights to decide whether they want to continue with the relationship or not.
DeleteWith the improvement of new technologies, transportation and the globalization, it’s not a big surprise that international relation increase in the world.
ReplyDeleteBefore the improvement of fast and relatively cheap transportation it was difficult to meet people outside of your city or countries, therefor meeting a romantic partner from another country was a whole more complicated challenge and also a completely unusual thing to do and also very complicated, not a lot of people could speak several languages like today, and were willing to leave their home country to go live abroad with someone, it was complicated to visit family and friends who were still living in the country and also just to communicate with them, for example my grand-parents did not have a phone in their house, now with our smartphone and face time it is less a big deal to go live abroad and also meet people from other countries.
I read an article about a couple’s experience on International marriage and this is what i learned: International marriage consumes lot of time, money, and effort during preparation. You’ll need longer time to prepare because of embassy papers, legal concerns, print up, registration, etc. International marriage also demands sacrifices. some left a promising career, their family and friends because they needed to follow their partner. Some of them became unemployed and some started their own business. Language barrier is not their problem, but the communication is. Sometimes they barely talk or discuss because it will lead to fight every time they try to compromise each other’s culture and fundamental perspectives. I think it's the same as any other relationship in my opinion, and I think that marrying someone who is foreign is a perhaps a nicer idea because you can never fully comprehend the other's point of view, having grew up in a different culture with different norms, laws and social rules. This makes it constantly exotic, mysterious and exciting and there's always something new to learn from each other.
ReplyDeleteMarried is a sacred process that aims to unite two large families into one. In addition to determining the place of reception and the number of invitations, you also need to think about whether your party will be held using custom or not. Especially if your family or your spouse's family holds the customs of ancestral ancestry, of course you can't carelessly hold mediocre marriages.
ReplyDeleteNow, the diversity of Indonesian culture makes many people finally choose to marry using custom on their wedding day. However, not a few also choose to marry a modern or international concept. Nowadays, there are many people who is involved in marriages with foreigners. There are a number of reasons why you choose to marry a custom that is quite complicated or in the international style of a foreign artist.
Married with International foreigners and with international customs is okay to be exact, because it is a matter of personal opinion and judgement. There is also a lot of advantages or great impacts to be exact, by marrying a foreigner, such as learning foreign customs, expanding your knowledge on international culture by broaden your horizon on the subject matter. It's a relative judgement regarding international marriages.
DeleteNow talking regarding the negative aspect of international marriage.
We all know that marrying a foreigner means there are two customs that must be passed down to your children. We won't know which one would be the dominant one, as a matter of fact, we won't even know if we could still hang on to our roots. It is very difficult to maintain your original customs and culture while undergoing an orientation period to learn and apply international customs from your respective spouses.
The lesson to be learned here is the fact that we have to stabilize and balance the amount of customs and cultural knowledge that will be inherited to your offspring, making it fair and square for them to learn the same amount of customs.
Now I'm gonna comment regarding the legal issues of international marriages.
DeleteWhen examined in terms of international private law, dual citizenship also has potential problems, for example in the case of determining personal status based on the principle of nationality, a child means that he will be subject to the provisions of his national state. If the provisions between state law are not contradictory, then there is no problem, but what if there is a conflict between one state law and another, then the child's personal status setting will follow the rules of the country. Then what if the one provision violates the principle of public order in the provisions of another country.
An example is in the case of marriage, according to Indonesian law, there are material and formal requirements that need to be fulfilled. When a child who is not yet 18 years old wants to get married, he must comply with these two conditions. Material requirements must follow Indonesian law while the formal conditions follow the law where the marriage takes place. Suppose that the child wants to marry his own uncle (a straight line up blood relationship), based on the material requirements of Indonesian law it is prohibited (article 8 of Act No.1 of 1974), but based on the law of the other nationality, this is permitted, then which conditions must be followed. This seems to need to be considered and reviewed by international civil law experts in connection with this dual citizenship. I want to argue that because this citizenship law is still new, the potential problems that can arise from this dual citizenship problem have not been the study of international civil law experts.
Marriage is defined differently, and by different entities, based on cultural, religious, and personal factors. A commonly accepted and encompassing definition of marriage is: A formal union, marriage is a social and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. Fifty years ago, interracial marriages were outlawed in certain parts of the world. Many people still frown upon them because they simply don’t understand them. Interracial marriages are still very much a minority, but they are occurring more and more in our global world.
ReplyDeleteFor whatever reasons, inter-racial marriages are mushrooming in Indonesia. It doesn't really matter how it started or what backgrounds people have in choosing their life partners as long as it happens for the good. Its no secret that many foreigners who visit Indonesia find love with the local citizens. While those in the throes of passionate love may think ‘love is all you need,’ the reality of partnering up with a local man or woman is much different. Marrying a local partner requires foreigners to take part in several legal procedures and observe cultural norms.
The rise of international marriage is a prove that love literally knows no bounds. It also shows that our world as we know it right now has less and less boundaries in each coming year. With regulations such as MEA ( Masyarakat Ekonomi Asia ), there will be a lot of opportunities for us to interact with foreigners. In most cases, said interactions will most likely occur during business meeting where one company would like to expand it’s reach to new markets. The views where our future race will be a ‘mixed race’ is a possibility, due to the effect of globalization rapidly affecting our lives. From my point of view, as long as the love is morally correct, then it should have no problem. But, it is best to put extra thought to the compromises that will be made in the future as a family. Due to the difference in cultural aspects, the couple should find a way to integrate both their positive cultural values to their daily lives, while still maintaining respect and mutual understanding with each other.
ReplyDeleteI believe that universal marriages or international marriages are one of the effects of globalization. With greater chance to work and travel abroad it appears to be more likely that individuals would discover somebody from another nation to cherish. I believe that these kind of marriages are very hard to begin off and it would be more hard if the nations are in different continents. The couple would need to make numerous bargains for it to succeed. Choosing where to live, how to discover a job, how to raise their kids together, figuring out how to acclimate to the neighborhood culture. These are a few factors and inquiries to consider when they are getting married to someone who is not from his/her country. Some of these factors also include the concern of legal activities such as acquiring uncommon licenses, and some influence that determined the fate of the family. There are obviously more factors however this shows that it is so hard to make the situation all fine in such a relationship. I also believe that after the international couple have crossed some type of mental boundary, their relationship would be just fine and could be as long lasting as normal marriages.
ReplyDeleteDefining an international marriage is a difficult undertaking. It’s clear enough when a foreign-born individual arrives in another country and marries a resident of said country. It’s also safe to say that when two people of different nationalities marry in a third country that this counts as international marriage. For record-keeping purposes, however, these marriages may not always be included in statistical analysis. There is also the question of how to count marriages where people marry within their ethnic group but the partners have different citizenship statuses. If someone has dual-citizenship in the US and a foreign country, and marries someone that only has citizenship in that foreign country, can it be counted as international? As one can see, it is not always so straightforward. Different nationality marriages often often cause difficulties especially if each of them stays in his religion.
ReplyDeleteThe concept of mixed marriage according to the Marriage Law is different from the concept of mixed marriage in Stb 1898-158. According to Stb 1898-158, mixed marriage is a marriage between people who in Indonesia are subject to different laws. The purpose of "different laws," is due to differences in citizenship, place of class, and religion. Whereas mixed marriages according to the Marriage Law only emphasize marriage between Indonesian Citizens and Foreign Citizens. Children who will be born from the marriage will of course get their rights, but because Indonesia adheres to the principle of Ius Sanguinis (the principle of inheritance), the children who will be born follow the descendants of their father. Unless the child has grown up, he can determine for himself whether to follow the citizens of his father or mother. Your prospective husband can obtain Indonesian citizenship by applying.
DeleteAccording to the Act No.1 of 1974 concerning Marriage, Marriage is a bond of inner birth between a man and a woman as a husband and wife with the aim of forming a happy and eternal family or household based on the One Godhead.
DeleteWhereas in England this marriage is defined as "a conferred upon union status between man and woman where they assume certain rights and duties including the right to have sexual intercourse with each other". (A.W. Scoot - 1972)
International marriage is a marriage that contains foreign elements, namely in the form of a bride who has a different nationality from another bride or both brides share the same nationality, but marriage takes place in another country, as well as a combination of these two aspects
we can see ancient examples that are rather legendary about ways of legal smuggling to get married. Those who feel too constrained by the rules of the law themselves, look for ways to "escape" from the wet restraints by traveling outside their own home. But we don't need to just mention examples from antiquity to illustrate this point. At the present time, it is often practiced in the practice of circumventing the rules of how to make a marriage which is considered too difficult. "Healing is sought by traveling to neighboring foreign places and where the conditions that are deemed to be invalid are invalid.
DeleteLove has no boundaries, Love has no religion and love has no age. People can choose who they want to spend the rest of their lives with, as long as you are happy, shoot your shot. I think international marriage is a beautiful thing because it's a change for the better, who knows; it might lead to world peace. There are factors that might be an obstacle to prevent international marriages, such as religion and culture. People tend to decline foreigners to get anywhere near their family in terms of love and relationship and it goes way back in history, for example when our first president (Soekarno) was young, he was in love with a dutch girl but the dutch kept him off because apparently the dutch were in a higher status and Soekarno was not suitable for that girl. Racism plays a big factor too, it still exists nowadays and it's very bad. International marriages would slowly decrease racism and cultural differences, it should never be a problem who we choose to be in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteInternational marriage may require more mental preparations than marriages within a nation. the biggest hurdle in international marriage is communication, it can be a challenge for most couples to communication honestly and openly. It’s even harder with a language barrier. The good things is you can get to experience and share each others culture, but that are also cultural misunderstanding. You should also find out if there is something in the future spouse's culture that could be difficult to bear for them and try to find a solution together, and considering cultivate both cultures/languages for the sake of their children and figuring out ways to do that, also you should make sure both of you are okay with where you’re planning to live. After all getting married means that you’ve found someone who is your best friend as much as they are your romantic partner – that’s what makes someone your soulmate. This is the person you will take every vacation with, celebrate every holiday and birthday with, be sick with, share success with, spend day-in and day-out with – so they need to be someone who wants it as much as you do.
ReplyDeleteIn today’s globalized world, it has become very simple to meet people from all kinds of cultural backgrounds – and, sometimes, to fall in love. International marriages, where one partner is from a country different than their spouse, are on the increase around the world. International marriages create a new set of issues for the parties involved, such as determining the validity of the marriage in other countries, meeting requirements for residency and citizenship and even different requirements for ending the marriage. It’s also safe to say that when two people of different nationalities marry in a third country that this counts as international marriage. For record-keeping purposes, however, these marriages may not always be included in statistical research. Religious and political differences, as well as language barriers can cause severe conflicts for couples in an international marriage. It is not just both partners’ cultural expectations that are a challenge. The approval of their respective families and friends and their desires are another factor which can make or break a marriage. Every marriage must have their ups and downs but when individuals had vowed to support each other than every obstacle can be exceeded
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