One of your friends invites you to have lunch with him. Let's call him Anton. You tell Anton that you are sorry but you can't accept because you are too busy with your work. A short while later a different friend, called Jack, invites you to lunch. You now feel tired and decide that your work can wait till after lunch and so you accept Jack's invitation. When you get to the cafe you see that Anton is inside, eating lunch alone. What do you do next?
Dilemma #2
You have a very annoying colleague at work. Let's call her Prima. She isn't very good at her job. You are always correcting her mistakes and always covering up for her when her mistakes cause trouble for everyone in your department. On top of it all, she has very irritating personal habits like eating smelly fried beans (pete goreng) in the office and listening to D'Massive on her computer. One day she applies for a transfer to another department. The department's boss asks you for a reference. In other words, do you recommend her to the boss? What do you do next?
For the #1 Dilemma, I would ask Anton to join us for lunch. And also, so that he doesn't get betrayed or something, I would explain why I decided to eat lunch with Jack honestly. I'm sure Anton will understand if I tell the truth to him rather than lying and making things worse. If Anton is mad at me, I would accept the fact that he's mad and I would promise him to tell him before if I decided to do the same thing again.
ReplyDeleteAnd for the #2 Dilemma, I am not really sure about what I should do. If I tell them the truth, they would probably canceled her transfer and that would be a problem for me. But if I lied, eventually they would find out about what she did and they would think that I was lying the whole time. But anyway, I would just lie because I don't want to work with her anymore. Especially because of how I have to cover her up for all of her mistakes.
For dilemma #1, honestly, If I’m in such a situation, I would try to eat in other cafés, because I don’t want to hurt Anton’s feeling. Even though I could actually asked him to join us for lunch and told him the truth, but I believe that he might be hurt seeing me having lunch with my friennd, while I previously rejected his invitation to have lunch with him.
ReplyDeleteFor dilemma #2 maybe, I would tell the department’s boss only the positive things about her, so that she could be accepted to another department. I think by doing that, it is more beneficial for me, because I didn’t have to work with her again especially because I feel uncomfortable with her. Other than that, I will try to tell prima about her performance on working that is not very good, and also giving her some advices to improve it for a better work.
For the first dilemma, the second I see Anton eating alone, I would ask Jack to eat in a different restaurant and explain it to him why I asked him to have lunch in a different place. Because if I were in Anton's shoes, I would feel betrayed and annoyed. Hence, it is better for Anton not knowing me having lunch with my other friend at the same cafe as him, knowing that I rejected his offer to have lunch with him before.
ReplyDeleteFor the second dilemma, If the boss asks me for reference, I would definitely recommend Prima to be transferred into other department so that I do not have to work with her anymore, because I'm already fed up by her behaviour and be the one who's always correcting and covering her mistakes. And I think my department will thank me as well because we don't have to deal with a person who eats smelly fried beans at the office.
If I were the person in dilemma 1, I would rather go inside the café and eat with Anton rather than going to another café and leave Anton alone. If I were to go to another café with Jack, there is a probability that Anton will arrive in the workplace sooner than me, and Anton will be angry at me for not going with him earlier if he were to see me arriving at the workplace with Jack. Whilst if I go inside the café and meet Anton, the chances are he’ll be happy to see me. Anton might be annoyed that I rejected his invitation earlier, but at least I still make an effort to eat lunch with him. Besides, bringing Jack along helps make things better since now people will not think that Anton and I were some sort of gay couple or something (haha no offense). Overall, the risk of arriving late at the café is less compared to not going at all because Anton will be less likely to get angry at me for showing up because I eventually get to eat lunch with him rather than evading him and eat somewhere else.
ReplyDeleteFor the second dilemma, I would tell the truth to the boss where she applied to work for her sake. If I were to lie to the boss, I would only make Prima suffers even more. Without my help, she will face many difficulties. She will start to feel extremely stressed because she has no one to correct and cover up her mistake and she will eventually be fired from her job. Because I’m not a very cruel person I would tell the boss the positive things and the advantages that Prima has and hopefully if Prima were to be hired, the company would place her in the right department and division. If the boss were to reject her transfer, I would help Prima to enhance her skills to a deeper extent and hopefully, her skills will improve too. Moreover, I would also tell Prima to stop eating fried Pete at work because having a nasty breath distract people from being able to focus at work as well as during conversation.
DeleteFor the first dilemma, I would feel guilty if I were to run and hide to another café just to avoid being seen by Anton, especially after seeing him eating alone. I’d come up to Anton and offer him to sit with me and Jack for the rest of lunch, as food is always better with company. I’d explain my reason of cancelling his offer and apologize and keep him company for the rest of our meals. I wouldn’t feel much guilt in explaining myself because it wasn’t as if I had cancelled on Anton with any ill feelings, it was simply because I wanted to get my work done. And maybe, after clearing up the situation, I could even ask both of them to help me with my work.
ReplyDeleteAs for the second dilemma, I must admit this is a much more difficult case than the first one. If I were to be honest, then my boss would find out I’ve been covering up for her work, but if I were to lie, the other department boss might accuse me of lying. I think the best choice for this situation is to objectively honest about Prima’s work performance whilst still trying to persuade the boss to accept her. I would say that she wasn’t the best at her job, due to her not having the right skills for my department. If Prima had requested the transfer herself, then she must have realized she would work better elsewhere with her existing skills. Because of that, I believe that she may work better in another department where she might be better there.
I had experienced the first dilemma several times. On some of my early experiences, I felt so cruel and miserable for treating my friends like I didn't want to hang out with them and chose to eat somewhere else. Bad move. As time went by, I finally came up with a solution: invite them to join my other friends and I at lunch or something together. I usually also told them the reason I refused their offers before. They always understood and joined us to have fun together. So, I think it would be better if Jack and I ask Anton to join him at lunch and explain the reason why I refused him earlier.
ReplyDeleteFor the second dilemma, I think it's the best to do an honest discussion about it first with Prima. Tell her what I think of her work and how she works for all this time. If she could change into a better person, then why not write her a good recommendation? But if she stays the same way as she is now, maybe I will tell my boss about the problems but still shows some of her good sides.
I would like to solve the first dilemma. Okay, what will I do next is I ask Jack to go outside the cafe together. After I am outside the cafe, I explain shortly to Jack about the situation and then I will phone call Anton. I tell him that actually I can go to have lunch with him and chit chat or in Bahasa “basa-basi”, asking where his location right now, do he still want to go to lunch together with me, if he say yes I tell him that I will invite Jack as well so the three of us can have lunch together. In my opinion, I am sure that Anton still want to have lunch with me since he is alone. So maybe I will wait like couples of minutes before come into the cafe, so Anton will not suspicious about me and hoping that three of us can have lunch happily, yay!
ReplyDeleteFor the first dilemma, I would just simply ask Anton to have lunch with us. If he feels mad that I didn’t go for lunch with him, I will just explain how I made my decisions on what I have done, or what I should’ve done. The most likely thing is that he will brush this off and will gladly have lunch with me and Jack, considering that is what a rational person would have done in this situation. No hard feelings for anyone, and the three of use ate lunch together.
ReplyDeleteFor the second dilemma, I would tell my superiors of what Prima does which I feel is necessary to the topic at hand. I will not, however, discuss my personal issues with her; as it would not be fair for my personal life to interfere with her career. Despite of how irritating someone is, no matter if its intentional or not, it would be right for you to enact your grudge on them when given the opportunity or advantage.
ReplyDeleteIf I were in the first situation I would certainly apologize to Anton for declining his invitation earlier and invites him to join together with my other friend. Or if he doesn’t want to I will tell Jack that Anton had already invited me for lunch earlier which I decline and now he’s eating by himself. I’m sure if Jack were one of my friends he will understand my situation. Because, rather than hiding the truth I would rather just tell the truth before thinking about what might happen after that.
If I were on the 2nd case, I definitely won’t recommend her to the boss. Without a single doubt I would tell the truth to the boss, but truthfully if she were one of my friends I might still tell the truth but I would slightly cover up her mistakes. I will tell the truth not because I have a personal grudge towards her but rather I think that she needs more experience before thinking of transferring to another department, as it may just be worse for her.
If I where in the first situation, I would have go directly to Anton to apologize myself for rejecting his invitation and explain him the real situation. Afterwards, I would present Jack to Anton and ask him if we both can join him for lunch. I think the success in a friendship is to always to be honest with each other and even if we make mistakes, we should always apologize and say what we think.
ReplyDeleteNevertheless, the second dilemma is more delicate. First, because Prima might be looking forward to change department, nevertheless, I would not like to hurt her feelings. If I were in this situation I would, first, talk to Prima and give her some feedback about her work. I would tell her the concrete things she should improve in order to be a better worker but also show her concrete ways or tools of how to achieve success.
At the first dilemma, I would admit that it was absolutely my mistake and say sorry to Anton for refusing his offer. I should have told Anton that I would go for a lunch with him after I finished my work instead of accepting an offer from Jack. I might say sorry to Anton and explain everything clearly but, he obviously wouldn’t trust my reason unless was a very naive person. Anton could think that I would prefer to go out with someone else rather than him. That was the risk that I had to take because of my mistake. That was all I could do.
ReplyDeleteThe second dilemma is quite interesting. It is a battle between what you feel and what you think. Although I hated her so badly, I would talk to my boss about her from all aspects for a better consideration. We all have two sides. Therefore, I couldn’t just talk about her bad side though I don’t like her personality. I had to tell my boss about her bad and good side.
I am interested in answering the second dilemma. To be honest, I would gladly promote her to my boss in order to make her move to a new department. I would prefer to work with someone who works at the same phase with me, and I'm pretty sure that I may not have the patience to cope with someone who couldn't catch up with work. I feel like one should be responsible for their own job and should be capable of doing it. The fact that she brings no advantage to me personally or to my department means that she is a burden, and having her to move to another department will solve the problem to my department. The problem that may arise next is that someone else may actually know her real working ethics once she gets to work with new colleagues, but I'll expect her to improve since she must have had lots of feedback on her performance.
ReplyDeleteFor the first situation, I would probably tell Jack to wait outside while I approach Anton and surprise him that me saying I was too busy with work was just a joke; Well not entirely a joke because I really am busy with work but it wouldn’t be bad to have a break to have a proper lunch to keep me from getting sick. Then I would chat Jack to come in and approach us 5 minutes later with a ‘what a coincidence meeting you guys here, let’s have lunch together!’ face. Although this may sound cowardly, I just don’t want to break Anton’s heart as a friend.
ReplyDeleteFor the second situation, I would truthfully tell the boss about many things that are lacking of her so that the boss himself would consider whether he wants to take her or not. As Prima and I are not particularly friends with her having annoying habits and incompetence at work, I don’t really think I should cover up anything for her when talking to the boss.
If I were in the second situation, I certainly would not recommend her to the boss because I think that being truthful is important. So without any hesitation, I would come clean to the boss. I also think that I would still tell the truth to the boss even if she was a friend of mine but I would conceal her mistakes a little bit. In my opinion, telling the truth doesn’t mean that you have a certain grudge against someone, it is simply means that honesty is the best trait anyone could have. If I were in the second situation, I would tell the truth to the boss because I think that she is not qualified to be transferred to another department. I believe that she have to consider it more because of the lack of experience that she has. For the first case, if I were in it I would certainly apologize to Anton for not accepting his invitation and also I would ask him to come and join me and my other friend. If Anton would not like to join me and my friend, I would tell Jack that Anton is eating alone by himself because of me not accepting his invitation to have lunch together earlier. No doubt in my mind that Jack would understand the situation and maybe he would ask Anton to join us. As I state it before, honesty is the best trait anyone could have. I certainly would rather tell the truth than deal with the consequences because I didn’t tell the truth.
ReplyDeleteFor the first dilemma, I would ask Anton to join me and Jack for lunch. In this situation, I understand that Anton might feel betrayed because I rejected his offer but then he sees me eating lunch with someone else therefore I would have to do a little bit of explanation to Anton. Perhaps by saying that when I felt tired and decided that my work can wait till after lunch, I was going to call him for lunch but I felt bad because I rejected his invitation earlier. A little white lie won’t hurt.
ReplyDeleteFor the second dilemma, I am not sure of what to do. If I tell the department’s boss about her real behavior in work, the other department might not accept her transfer request therefore she will stay in my department which is not something that I want. But if I sugarcoat her personality, that would be unethical because I am technically lying to the department’s boss and if she eventually gets accepted and the other department finds out how she behave at work, I might get into trouble as well. In this situation, I would tell the boss of my own department about her attitude so they can decide what to do with her.
For the first dilemma, I would immediately ask Jack to come with me for a few minutes to somewhere or a nearby area where the possibility of Anton noticing was very low and nearing zero. Then, I would take out my phone and call Anton to ask him that I had grown tired with my task and asked him whether he would like me to still continue with the earlier plan of having lunch together, as well as informing him that I had Jack tagging along with me. Next, once I had received his answer, which the answer being yes would indisputably be very high, I would now enter the café that Anton had already gone to first. Therefore, there would be no need for Anton to become angry at me or even going as far as feeling betrayed, knowing that I had already informed him that I accepted his lunch invitation which I had previously declined, as well as informing him that I was already on my way. For the second dilemma, since it wasn’t mentioned in the passage whether Prima and I were good friends, I would tell the boss everything as I uphold truth as my highest value. This includes all the things she had proved to be good at, together with the things that she definitely were not very good at. From there, whatever decision that the boss is going to take, I will see to it that I’m not to regret my action that has contributed to that outcome. Also, if it turned out that the boss wouldn’t want Prima to transfer to the other department which she applied to, then it would be that exact moment that I would retire from being her “protector”.
ReplyDeleteIf I am in the first situation, of course I will tell Anton that I can’t do my work again because I am crazily hungry and also explain to him that I was about to call him back to ask him to have lunch together but then I find him anyway in the cafe so it is a coincidence. Next thing that will happen is, he will definitely ask why Jack is also there, so I will say the truth that surprisingly Jack also asks me to have lunch at the same time so I decide to go to the cafe with Jack while also looking for Anton. So, in the end I will have lunch with Anton and also Jack together maybe it will be awkward I guess, but three of us will eat and forget the problem anyway. Well, actually I have ever felt that kind of situation in senior high school, it happened exactly just like the story and I did exactly what I said and fortunately it worked so I believe my advice would be helpful.
ReplyDeleteFor the case of dilemma 1, first, I would go away to a place where Anton would not notice me and then I would contact him asking where he was and whether or not he’s still up for having lunch together. If he shows a positive reaction, I would then tell him that I got tired of work and would like to ask him to have lunch with me and if he wouldn’t mind having Jack along. In situations like this, I think that a little white lie is harmless.
ReplyDeleteFor the case of dilemma 2, I would tell the truth to the boss regarding her lack of competency in her current department but nevertheless, it’s better for me and everyone in my department to have her transferred as it would lighten the load for us. So I would also tell the boss to give her a chance so that perhaps she could finally discover her other potencies in a different department as I believe she would and could improve under the guidance of other experience people, although it might cost her some serious disciplining.
For the first dilemma, firstly, I would explain the situation to Jack and asks him if it was okay to asks Anton along. Once he agrees, I would invite Anton to sit with me and Jack. But before that, I would explain the reason why I reject his offer in the first place and asking for apologies to him. Therefore, there would be no misunderstanding in the situation, and I’m sure Anton would understand. While for the second dilemma, I would try to talk to Prima first, about her performances at work which is not really good. After that, we would discuss it first to come up with the solution, whether she’s going to change and be a better employee or not. If she wants to improve her performances at work, then I would give a good recommendation to the boss. If she’s being stubborn, then I would not give a good recommendation to the boss.
ReplyDeleteapologized to him for what I have done, and tell him that I just finish my work so I can go to the café, then I will ask him to join with me and Jack. But if this situation is happening to me, I will tell Anton to wait for me until I finish my work, rather than contacting Jack.
ReplyDeleteFor the #2 dilemma, it’s quite hard for me, because at the moment Prima is my friend, but I have to be honest and objective in giving an opinion about Prima to the boss. So the first thing to do I have to be honest to Prima, and evaluate her about the job and tell her that it disturbs other staff if she still eat Pete goreng in the office, and if there’s improvement I would recommend her to the boss, but if there isn’t any progress, I will tell the boss that Prima isn’t capable of doing her job, and she has bad personal habits.
For the first dilemma, maybe after I accepted Jack invitation to eat lunch together I call Anton if he can join us. But if Anton did not know who Jack is, I will come to his table and giving a little chat, apologizing that I reject his invitation and if possible I will ask him to join my table and maybe introducing Jack and have a good lunch with both of my friend. I mean, it’s not a big deal. But I need to know what kind of person Anton is, there’s a lot of possibility and my answer is flexible,
ReplyDeleteFor the second dilemma, I’m just going to write everything based on the fact and the truth due to my concern about her capability and my credibility as an employee. It is not about how annoying or about how smelly she is but it is all about her capability to do her job. I’m going to be as objective as I can even though deep down inside I just want her to move to another department. As a friend maybe I’m going to give one or two words about her weaknesses and maybe eventually she can be a better person.
The first dilemma would definitely be the worst scenario that could possibly happen in this kind of situation. If i were in this position, the first thing i would do is to explain the current situation to Jack, and then i’ll immediately find the fastest escape route and try my best to not get seen by Anton. I said so because if Anton see me hanging out with Jack when i just rejected his offer a while ago, he could actually feel upset and betrayed, and there is a high possibility that it’ll affect our relationship in the future. Therefore i’d prefer to go somewhere else. While for the second Dilemma, i’ll definitely recommended Prima to the Boss, therefore i could set my self free from the torture that binds me this whole time. At the end, i’ll also give her some advice with hope that she could realize about her behaviour that brings negative influence towards the working environment. Therefore she could improve herself and everyone will be happy.
ReplyDeleteFor the first dilemma, I would go to a different café because I don’t want to make it look like I’m choosing Jack over Anton. I also don’t want to hurt Anton’s feelings and cause a misunderstanding. I went out with Jack because at that time I feel that I need some break from my work. To make it up to Anton, I would ask him to go to lunch with me the next day and explain why I couldn’t go to lunch with him the other day.
ReplyDeleteFor the second dilemma, I would totally recommend her to the boss. I would recommend her because if she moves to another department that means I don’t have to deal with her irritating personal habits anymore. It means that I can do my job in peace and work more efficient without any smell of fried beans and D’massive tunes interrupting my ear.
I will talk about the second dilemma. I personally the type of person who prefer to keep being quiet instead of telling the truth. But in this case, since it is an important thing and it has given a bad impact for me, I will try my best to explain to Prima everything that is not really good from what she is doing and tell her the things that make everybody feels annoyed by her, because otherwise she will never ever know her fault. I think, having an annoying colleague at work will cause so many bad things because the good atmosphere at work is really necessary to produce good result in doing the job and also to work productively we need to cooperate with our colleagues at work. So, the thing that I will do is I will tell Prima everything about her bad habits. Next, actually it sounds so selfish and mean but I would tell the department’s boss that she can work well if she is being told to so that she will be moved to that department and I don’t have to be her colleague anymore.
ReplyDeleteIf the first problem ever happened to me, I really don’t know what to do next, and I hope that it will not happen. So, I think I would just like to discuss about the second dilemma. Actually, I have sort of experienced this problem. It happened in an organization in high school. I had a colleague who is ignorant about his job. Sometimes I wonder how did he pass the selection process. And sometimes I took over his job, and once, I covered his mistakes in front of the counselor. Starting from that moment, I realized that I had to do the right thing, I had to remind him about his tasks and responsibilities. And thankfully, my friend changed his habit. In the next period, my counselor asked me advices about my friend because there were some people that was moved to other decisions. I told her about my friends’ ignorant attitude, but now he has changed. In conclusion, if I was in a situation like that, I would help my friend to change his attitude from the beginning, and if I were questioned by others, I would have to tell the truth.
ReplyDeleteIf i am in any situation similar to the dilemma #1, i would not avoid such problem by eating in a different cafe. Although the option in the previous sentence did cross my mind, but i would in fact ask Anton to join me for lunch. As to answer his probable confusion of rejecting his offer for lunch, i would kindly explain my true situation to Anton throughout the lunch. I believe that the discussion about work and our different situations can be a topic to chat during the lunch held together.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, if i am in any situation similar to the dilemma #2 in which i have to give a reference for work recommendation, i would certainly consider the work of the person. Prima may be described to have poor performance of work and that is not a thing to be lied for. However, i would not just be straight about her poor work performance. I would still mention her positive abilities and the benefits by having her accepted in the department.
For Dilemma #1, it would come up to two alternatives. The first way is just go out, and find another café to eat with Jack. The other alternative is to go in, and tell Anton about how you’re tired and need a break. Tell Anton that when you decided to take a break, you thought that he already had other plans. You may ask Jack to eat together with Anton. It may be a little awkward, but it will work out
ReplyDeleteFor Dilemma #2, I advise that we remind Prima from the beginning, that she needs to improve her job. She has less quality of her job performance, and she has bad habits that may distract other co-workers. I would remind her from the beginning, and I personally wouldn’t cover for her mistakes. If I succeed in changing her attitudes, then it will be easy to answer the questions from the departments’ boss. If she still maintains her bad attitude, then you should tell the truth to the boss.
For the first dilemma, what I would do, is that I would first apologise to Anton because I declined his offer earlier. I would explain that I changed my mind because I was no longer busy at the time and didn’t meant on declining him. I would later ask him to sit with me and jack, it would be way better for us three to sit together than sitting on separate tables. We would enjoy our lunch together and have no hard feelings.
ReplyDeleteFor the second dilemma, because it is a work environment, I would try to keep things professional and not recommend her to boss. I would explain to the boss her habits and her lack of responsibility towards her work. What happens later is not of my concern because I am not the one who decides whether she gets accepted in her transfer. And that is all what I would do.
For the First Dilemma, I think that I would like to ask Anton to join us to have a lunch together, and I would explain to him why I do accept the invitation of Jack instead of his, and would apologise to him for doing such act of betrayal and would probably pay for his lunch as one of the act of apology, if he’s mad at me, I would not really care either, since I’ve apologised to him and now it’s up to him if he would accept the apology or not, if he’s not, I hope that Anton would maintain a professional behaviour at work and would not do such childish act or something like that.
ReplyDeleteFor the second one, my dad always say that if a boss’s asking for recommendation regarding a member of a team at work, make sure that you tell everything without any “filter” or anything covered while at the same time, ensure that the person’s in discussion will satisfy the department’s demand by helping her in order to ensure that she did less mistake. Since my dad’s been doing this matter quite a lot, he told me that someone might did lots of mistake in the current department, the situation might different in different condition so by helping Prima, she might perform better in her new department as well as trying not to irritate her by saying negative things regarding her performance or her habits since every individuals are unique.
For the first situation, I still cannot decide what to do because it depends on how close our friendships are. If I think we are not so close, I will go find another cafe or restaurant to eat with Jack. Because when I decide to eat on the same cafe as Anton, he will think that I choose Jack over him and it will irritate him. If Anton feels irritate, it will damage our friendship. And if I think we are closer, I will go inside and approach him. I will apologize because I reject his invitation. After that I will explain my reason why I reject his invitation but accept Jack invitation for lunch. By saying that I feel a bit tired and I think my work can be done after lunch. If Anton wants, I will try to introduce Anton to Jack and ask him to join our table.
ReplyDeleteFor the second situation, I will try to talk to Prima first. I will try to tell her that her habit of eating smelly fried bean or ‘pete goreng’ is disturb people in the office, if no one tells her that eating ‘pete’ is actually annoying, she will never know and will keep eating ‘pete’ in office. About her bad work, I will try to tell her slowly. As her friends, it will be better if I can tell her mistake and try to give her some solution. And hoping that it will help her with her task and in the end became easier for me too. I will not recommend Prima to my boss and give my opinion about her as objective as possible. I know if I recommend Prima to my boss, she will get transferred to another department and will make my life easier. But when my boss know the truth about her, my boss will not believe me like before and I will not risk that.
DeleteFor dilemma number one, I think that if I were to be in this situation I would first panic a little bit and worry about whether I should go to that restaurant or go to a different one. My first instinct would be to just run away from that problem. But, then I would choose to stay and finish the problem right away because I know that if I sneak away and he finds out eventually, it would be way worse. I would first explain truthfully to Anton what had happened and apologise. I’m pretty sure that Anton would understand. I would also ask Anton to join Jack and I, introducing them both so that we can all have lunch together.
ReplyDeleteFor dilemma number two, I would write her reference and only include her actual positive sides. This way, it can be a win-win situation; she gets the good reference that she needs and can transfer to the department she wants, whilst I can be free from her but still not lie about her in the reference.
The two dilemmas on the article above are pretty interesting. For dilemma number one, my solution is to tell Anton the truth even though it will hurt his feelings. In my opinion, telling the truth to Anton will make everything clear and minimize the misunderstanding. If we keep lying it will make everything worse. In this situation i can't tell that this is our fault or Anton's fault. We are not a hundred percent lying because when Anton invites us to have lunch with him, we have our reason why we reject him because we are too busy with our job. If he is mad then we can't do anything but to accept and apologize for what happen. After explaining our reason and apologize, I will tell Anton to not doing this mistake again and convince him to forgive us. The other alternative is too eats in a different place from Anton or we could join Anton and eat with him.
ReplyDeleteDilemma number two is quite unique. The situation is not easy to handle. She is our colleague at work so I can't let her down and tell all the bad things about her. Probably what will I do if I'm stuck in this situation is to tell the department's boss the truth. I'm going to tell all the good things about her but also not forget to mention the things that she needs to fix or some habits that make her colleague have to cover them up. I won't tell the bad thing that doesn't correlate with the changing of her department. Even if she is annoying and give us some extra work to cover her mistake, I won't risk the chance of her transfer being canceled because of our bad recommendations. The worst case scenario is I'm going to lie to the boss in order to make the transfer process success because she always causing trouble for all of us.
DeleteFirst, I will discuss about the first dilemma. At first, I would tell Anton that I immediately needed a break. I didn’t mean to reject his request to go out and eat with other friends. It just at some point, I got tired and needed a break from work. Maybe I would ask Jack to eat together with Anton. It would be a little awkward, but they can get along together. You maybe can just immediately change restaurant, and tell to Jack later. About the second dilemma, I would probably just tell the truth about Prima to the department’s boss. At first, I would tell Prima about his flaws, and maybe just help her to get better. If she refuses to change her habits, it’s on her own. I would have to tell the truth to the department’s boss. I know it will be hurt for Prima, but I would have to tell the truth, because this also concerns about other people in different departments.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn’t say the first dilemma even considered as a dilemma. From my point of view, it is really clear that the best way to approach this kind of situation is to join him, but there are things that you need to do first. When you finally meet him, try to apologize for not accepting the offer and try to explain thoroughly the reason why you did not take the offer. This is really important, because misunderstanding can happened in friendships. And for the second dilemma, personally I would tell the truth about the how she is. This probably will lead to the cancelation of her transferring to another department but, just through that I basicly place a complaint towards the company on how she works and so on. S that is probably the best decision from my point of view. From both dilemma I would say the second one probably considered the harder one because the first one, personally, I would not even call it as a dilemma.
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