Choose just TWO dilemmas and offer your solutions in a single comment!
You are unemployed. You are at a university reunion party five years after graduating. Someone asks you what you do. When you reply, do you make it sound like you have a job?
Your aunt gave you an expensive crystal vase as a gift. It has been sitting in the cupboard for over a year because it doesn’t suit your house’s furniture or decoration. Your friends are getting married. Would you give them the vase as a present?
While staying at a five star hotel you accidentally spill a glass of red wine on one of the sofas in your room. Do you cover the stain with a cushion and keep quiet?
You order something from a mail order catalogue. After the item has arrived you receive a refund from the mail order company and a letter explaining that the item is out of stock. It seems that there has been some kind of computer error. Do you tell the company about their error and give the money back?
You and one of your close friends are attracted to the same person. You are both single and so is this person. One day he/she asks you if your friend is dating anyone. Do you lie and say “yes”?
You are engaged to be married. Your fiancé/ fiancée insists that you no longer meet or talk to one of your former lovers who has become a close friend. Do you continue seeing him/her?
Someone you loved very deeply left you and married somebody else. At that time you were heartbroken and bitter. Two years later, you find out that their marriage ended in divorce. Your former lover calls you and wants to see you again. Do you agree to meet him/her?
Spilling a red wine on the hotel room’s sofa. The first thing to do in my opinion is not to panick. Just wipe the stain with a wet fabrique or a wet tissue for temporal cleaning. And just cover the stain, no big deal. I paid for the room i stayed in. The price should consist of the insurance to every thing in the room. It was a mistake. Unless i broke the sofa or kick the tv on purpose then yeahh i am going to be charged. But in this occasion, the hotel is supposed to be professional to handle it and we just have to be calm.
ReplyDeleteI do not care if it is my fiance, or a person i really trust, if i want to do something i am going to do it anyway. As long as it does not hurt anybody. Me meeting my ex lovers that happen to be one of my closest friends should not be a problem. It us not like i am cheating so my fiance has nothing to worry about. I like to meet my closest ones occasionally, because they are part of my life and i am not going to let that slip away. If my fiance truly loves me, she does not mind to let me do my things as long as i dont do illegal things in relationship lol.
I will comment on the case of spilling red wine at a five star hotel. First, I will try to clean it before it leaves stain by trying to scrub it with wet towel or something else. If it doesn’t make it any better than I honestly will just leave it behind and choose not to tell the hotel management. I think it has become a habit for my family whenever we are staying in hotel and something similar happen, we would just leave it as it is. One time, my cousin had a really bad nosebleed in the middle of the night while we were on a family vacation. The blood was all over the bed and it was hard to rub the stain off. So, we decided to cover it with the blanket and just leave it like that. Thankfully nothing happen, the hotel didn’t call or reach out to my parents in any way.
ReplyDeleteIf I have a friend who is an artist and invited me to one of her first exhibition, I would definitely buy one of her painting as it will gain her confidence of being an artist. At the same time, she will feel that she is being appreciated. Making an exhibition is not easy especially if it’s your first one. Even though her paintings are not that good but, when she saw lots of her paintings being sold, she will be motivated to make more and there will higher quality paintings produced. I personally think this way is a better way of letting her improve compared to directly criticizing the painting in front of the artist.
ReplyDeleteI would not give the vase as a present to my friend as it is a gift from my aunt. Even though I never display it around the house, the crystal vase still means something since, not everyone in the family got the opportunity of receiving that crystal vase.
For the fourth dilemma, I would not give my crystal vase to my friend due to the reason that it’s specifically been given to me. Whenever I receive a gift from my relatives or family, which in this case is my aunt, I will try my best to keep the gift and maintain the condition of the gift (for the gift that’s not edible). Because if one day I couldn’t see them anymore, which is in the case where they passed away, then I have something to remind me of that person. I know it’s a bit tempting to give it away to a friend because the vase doesn’t match with my house decoration or furniture, but I still won’t give it to my friend. I rather give my friend something that I buy rather than something that’s been given to me. Meaning that I would much rather give my friend a present that I bought for them and not something that is given to me (like in this case is a vase from my aunt) and I just give it to them. For this dilemma, I rather give my friend something else rather than the special vase that was given by my aunt.
ReplyDelete“You and one of your close friends are attracted to the same person. You are both single and so is this person. One day he/she asks you if your friend is dating anyone. Do you lie and say yes?”
ReplyDeleteIf this happen to me, I would be sad, of course. However, I would not lie and say that my best friend is not dating anyone because that would be such a selfish act. By him asking if my best friend is single, it shows that he is attracted to my best friend instead of me. Therefore I would actually help them get together and I will find someone else for myself.
“A friend of yours is an artist. She hasn’t had a lot of success yet. She invites you to her first exhibition and obviously hopes that you will buy one of her paintings. They are not very good and they are not very cheap. Do you feel you have to buy one?”
If they are not very good and they are not very cheap, I will not buy them. I will feel bad for my friend but to make up for this, I will help her promote her exhibition and artwork so those art lovers who share the same interest as her could buy it instead.
For the first problem, I feel really bad for her. I know it’s hard to be an artist and to sell by painting and as her friend, of course I want to support her and her career choice. If I find a painting of hers I like then I buy it, even if it is expensive. But if none of her art is good to me then I’ll just invite my other friends to come see the exhibition so they can maybe buy something they like. Art is something subjective, not everybody will like the same thing, so if I think her art isn’t good, someone else can be opposite and think that it is great. I will continue giving my support to her, like comforting her if she didn't sell a lot or if she isn't successful yet and telling my artist friends about her. But I don't think I will support her by being forced to buy one of her art if I don't like them.
ReplyDeleteFor the hotel problem, I think it would be a bad thing to do is to keep quiet. Yes it would mean that you don’t have to pay for the damage and rebuying the sofa but if I didn’t tell them, I would feel really guilty. The first thing I would do is try to wash the stain away as much as possible by searching how to get rid of wine stains on the internet. If I’m able to get rid of the stain, then I don’t think I would tell them, because I’ve already solved the problem. But if I still cannot do it, then I would call and ask a friend or a cleaner to help me clean it gone. If that still doesn’t work and the red wine stain is still there, then I will tell the employees that I had ruined their sofa, because the worse thing that can happen is they ask me to pay for the cleaning service.
DeleteFor the fourth dilemma, it really depends on how close I am with my aunt, and if my aunt and my friend knows each other. If I am very close with my aunt I probably won’t, because I’d feel very bad. And I can’t risk her finding out I gave the vase away. And if my aunt and my friend knows each other I won’t either, because one of them can find out what I did and it would obviously cause trouble.
ReplyDeleteFor the fifth dilemma,I can see myself staying quiet if I am ever in a situation like this. I know that I will cover it up with something and just ignore it without feeling guilty at all. I know it is bad but I always want to get over something quick instead of taking responsibility. I would probably try to clean it up with some wet wipes or wet cloth but that would be it, really.
For the dilemma number three, I will tell her that I haven’t got a job. It might be embarrassing for some people, but communicating it could make everything better. That person might be able to help us to find a job or she knows someone that I can seek a job to. That is the benefit of having a lot of connections. If you find something difficult, you can always share to each other and gain lesson or seek for help from those friends of yours.
ReplyDeleteFor dilemma number four, I definitely will not give the vase to my friend. If indeed I was given a useful item and I don’t feel like I need it, for example a TV or a refrigerator, I’ll give it to people in need. But for decorative items that keep a memorable moment with someone, I would be very fond to keep it. The vase is precious and holds a meaning that reminds me of my aunt. Thus, I will save it for myself.
Liking a same person with your close friend is one of my worst nightmares. If the person we like asks me whether my friend is dating anyone, I would just answer it honestly. Because, this case is about feelings. Human feelings are just weird and unavoidable. Moreover, it could leads to love, and then marriage, then having kids, and so on. So, I won’t say yes just because my ego to want to become his girlfriend. Funny is, I’ve known a case like this (let’s just say this is my experience), where my close friend ended up being with the person we both like, and I, can only bury my feelings towards him. But, the real ending is that the guy actually has feelings for me, because I’ve helped him a lot in choosing present for her, decorating what she likes, and many more. So, it’s just quite funny that sometimes the endings are like the “plot-twist” of the story.
ReplyDeleteIn answering the dilemmas above I would like to discuss the seventh dilemma. For the seventh one, my friend has faced the exact same thing. It all happens in the 10th grade, my friend has been pursuing this one girl secretly without making anyone noticing it. Suddenly my other friend was asking him the same question like the case above, at that moment I tell him if I were him, I would not let my friendship be broken by something like this. So I tell him that I would just probably tell the truth that I have been pursuing this girl for a while, with a hope that the other friend would respect all the action and sacrifices that he has made. By doing so, I believe I can still have both my friend and the people that I love, but if the friend still want to pursue the girl then, maybe a little sacrifice won't hurt hehe
ReplyDeleteI will comment on the first dilemma first which is the painting one, to know the condition of my friend where she hasn’t had a lot of success at the moment I would gladly come to her exhibition so that I can show her my sympathy, now talking about her thoughts for me to buy one of her paintings I don’t exactly know how to deal with this, why? Because first it isn’t stated what is the condition of my economy here, if I was rich as hell then I would clearly buy all the paintings there, but if I was poor then of course I wouldn’t buy any of it. Second, I wouldn’t buy it either if I she didn’t tell me if she wants me to buy one of her paintings if she really wants me to buy it then she should’ve told at the first place, so I think the conclusion is I think I would come but I wouldn’t buy unless she told me to buy. The second dilemma that I choose is the unemployed and then I came to a party one, if I really came to that party which is nearly impossible because I don’t like parties but since I came and then someone ask me what do I do I would answer it honestly and say I am a lawyer now but in Indonesia which if translated become aku adalah seorang pengacara then before they can ask me more I would continue my answer and say pengangguran banyak acara.
ReplyDeleteThe very first dilemma I chose is “You and one of your close friends are attracted to the same person. You are both single and so is this person. One day he/she asks you if your friend is dating anyone. Do you lie and say “yes”?”. I think that I wouldn’t lie. Although we like the same guy, does not mean it has to ruin our friendship. I wouldn’t lie because I know if I lied it would lead to a conflict which then would put our friendship at stake. So, no. I wouldn’t lie. I would just be honest, if my friend is meant to be with this person then why should I be on the way?. The second dilemma I chose is “Someone you loved very deeply left you and married somebody else. At that time you were heartbroken and bitter. Two years later, you find out that their marriage ended in divorce. Your former lover calls you and wants to see you again. Do you agree to meet him/her?” I think it depends on my status during that time. If I was married then I wouldn’t say yes because I don’t want to bring back a piece of my past when I am already content with my marriage. If I am not married during that time then I would say probably say yes. I would think of it as “catching up with an old friend” kind of meeting.
ReplyDeleteThe first dilemma I chose to discuss is about whether I would give an opportunity to my ex girlfriend or someone I loved to meet me again after she left me. Well, I am a type of person who can’t forget the past easily, but can’t put past memories as a burden for my future life. So for that reason, the answer is that of course I would give the opportunity to meet up again. Besides, it is just a regular meeting. What happen or what might happen afterwards is the future and it is not for us to see. (Que sera sera.. Whatever will be , will be. The future's not ours to see… Que sera, sera.)
ReplyDeleteThe second dilemma is about whether I would buy my friend’s painting even though it is not a good creation. Well, it’s not a difficult thing for me to decide. Simply, if this person is my best friend, then for me I would buy it to appreciate what he has done. But then, as a true friend too, I will give suggestions to improve his skills in a way so that he won’t feel bad about it.
The first dilemma I chose to comment on is about the spilled wine in the hotel room. This is somehow quite easy for me to figure out what I’d do in that kind of situation. I would actually try my best at cleaning the stain myself. However, afterwards I wouldn’t inform the hotel staff about it. The second dilemma I chose to comment on is about being attracted to the same person as my close friend. If he asks me whether or not my friend is dating anyone, then I would answer honestly. I’m a big believer of what’s meant to happen will happen. I wouldn’t try my best to impress the guy or anything. He could be the right person for my close friend. Moreover, I am someone extremely selective of the people close to me. That means, if a person becomes my close friend, I would really value the friendship we have, and would do almost nothing to jeopardize it.
ReplyDeleteFor the first dilemma, I chose the first one. Personally, I would not buy his or her painting because if the reason for me to actually buy such painting is just to give pity to the friends selling, that would be disrespectful the piece of art and the artist itself. Probably the best thing I would do in that situation is decline nicely, and maybe try to promote it through social media or something in that similar manner. And, for the second dilemma I chose the forth one. From previous gifts that I have got, most of them ended up in the warehouse where it collects dust. Back when I was a child my grandma used to collect this kind of gift both from relatives, friends, and even her old co-workers. Just like any other space in the house, one day it got full. Because of that, most of the gifts ended up being reused as gift for other people.
ReplyDeleteYou and one of your close friends are attracted to the same person. You are both single and so is this person. One day he/she asks you if your friend is dating anyone. Do you lie and say “yes”?
ReplyDeleteNo, I would help them instead. To me, the joy and happiness of my loved ones is the most important thing. Though I know it’ll end up hurting me instead, at least in the future looking back I wouldn’t regret a single thing. It’s the biggest fear of mine. I hate regrets; I hate those moments where I keep on telling myself ‘You should’ve done that’, ‘You shouldn’t have done that’, or ‘I wish I could undo that’. Therefore whatever dilemmas I have in my life though it’s not something major, I always put myself 10 years from now. I would always ask myself ’10 years from now, would you regret this?’ and the saying ‘Do something you wouldn’t wish to change.’ has always been my guidance to overcome the dilemmas I have had in my life.
Someone you loved very deeply left you and married somebody else. At that time you were heartbroken and bitter. Two years later, you find out that their marriage ended in divorce. Your former lover calls you and wants to see you again. Do you agree to meet him/her?
It all comes back to the intention, if he wants to see me because he wants to rectify his mistake and to move on from what had happened then surely without a doubt I would meet him. But if he wants to rekindle our relationship then I wouldn’t meet him. There must be a reason as to why he left me, fell for somebody else and married her; it’s something that can be forgiven but cannot be forgotten, it’ll linger in my memory for as long as I could remember.
I couldn’t believe I’m writing my last comment for the comment requirement! Thank you so much, Mr Adrian. I feel so honored to be one of your Guinea Pigs. In this comment, I want to discuss about the first and the last dilemma. In the first dilemma which about the dilemma of buying my friend’s artwork. I think I need to purchase my friend’s painting. Because, I think art is about taste and perspective. Even though some people say that her artworks aren’t good enough, it is what’s in her head, her mind. By purchasing her artwork, I want my friend to feel appreciated and continue her passion on doing what she likes. While in the last dilemma, I think, I wouldn’t meet him after he had divorce; because as a former lover, I could make his ex-wife’s heart broken or anything. I would still try my best to be the ears, but for meeting each other in real life doesn’t seem a good idea for me.
ReplyDeleteLooking at the post above, i have decided to chose the dilemma number one and the dilemma number seven. Firstly, dilemma number one describes a situation in which; do i feel like i have to buy the painting made by my friend considering the fact that it is not very good but pretty expensive? Well, nope, i do not feel like it is my responsibility to buy the painting to prove my support as a friend. My support can be proven just by the fact that i spare my time to attend his or her exhibition. Secondly, dilemma number two describes a situation of a love triangle between me, my best friend, and this one particular person that we both have a crush on. If by any chance the person asked me about my best friend, i will not lie and i will immediately tell the truth for i believe good things come to those who wait and be patient.
ReplyDeleteOf course, it would hurt me very much when someone that I love very deeply left me for someone else easily and forget about me. First of all, 2 years is a long time and the round table of the world turns so things come and go in those 2 years. The answer if my ex-lover came back after 2 years and they divorced and he contacted me back, I think it would depend on the status of my life. Because just because it hurts me when he left, its been a while and my deprivation could’ve healed and would evolve the feeling of no needing him anymore. But it would be touching to know that someone that I look up to, still looks back at me. So yes, I would agree to meet him anyways whether I would like to go back or not with him, in respect to our relationship.
ReplyDeleteFor the first dilemma, I would definitely buy one for myself but it would be better to wait for other people to buy it if I were to get more. Because if other people bought it, then it would show that she did great because people she doesn't know likes it. But if in the end no one buys it and I can afford it, I would buy more for myself and put it up at my house. I don't care if it looks good or not, i’ll like it anyways if my friend made it. For the fourth dilemma, I would not give the vase that my aunt gave me because that would be disgraceful. My aunt gave it to me as a gift and I will cherish it till I die. Even if it doesn't suit the house’s furniture or decoration, I would still keep it because it’s precious.
ReplyDeleteIf my fiance tells me that I am not allow to see one close friend who was my former lover, I won’t listen to him but besides I would start to consider not marrying him. It might sound to extreme, but trust is a fundamental part of a relationship. If he wants me to stop seeing my close friend is because he don’t trust me. I do not like the person who is going to be with me the rest of my life to prohibit me things. If he does not have a valid reason for me to stop my relationship, such as my friend wants me back, then I won’t stop.
ReplyDeleteThe question for the second dilemma I want to comment is: do I buy a painting of my friend? Well, if she is a close friend of mine then yes. I would like to support her and to make her feel like her job is valuable.
“Your aunt gave you an expensive crystal vase as a gift. It has been sitting in the cupboard for over a year because it doesn’t suit your house’s furniture or decoration. Your friends are getting married. Would you give the vase as a present?”
ReplyDeleteI think we shouldn’t give other people something that someone else has given to us since it could be seen as we don’t like and we don’t appreciate what they have given us. If we give someone a unique and special present, and a few years later seeing that same thing in someone else’s place, wouldn’t you feel underappreciated?
“You and one of your close friends are attracted to the same person. You are both single and so is this person. One day, they ask you if your friend is dating anyone. Do you lie and say ‘yes’?”
I wouldn’t say yes, since one, lying is bad, and two, if somehow they found out about the lie, you would lose trust from both your crush AND your friend. If you just tell the truth and say no, you may lose your crush, but you’ll still have a trusty friend beside you.
I’ve decided to choose the first two dilemmas. If I were in the situation of the first dilemma, what I would do is to not buy any of her paintings. The main reason on why I won’t buy any of her paintings if there are none that I like is because art is something that you like or dislike, so it’ll be pointless to buy something that I don’t like. What I will do is to tell her nicely that she needs to improve her skills in order to sell her paintings. For the second dilemma, if I got an expensive ticket of a concert show but then I miss the concert because of not remembering on when the concert is being held, I would tell my boss who gave me the ticket that I’ve watched the concert. In order to do that I would search the internet to find the footage of the concert so that I could retell the situation and the ambience of the concert to my boss. This is due to the price of the ticket that is expensive, so it would be such a waste if my boss finds out that I didn’t attend the concert.
ReplyDeleteI'd like to express my opinion on the "boss gave me an expensive concert ticket and I missed the show because I forgot to make a note on my calendar" dilemma. I would probably just be honest to my boss if I am being asked about how the concert was. The reason for this is because I did not see any problem in being honest. Of course I would feel really bad about missing the concert but I'd still tell my boss the truth, that I forgot to come to the show because I did not make a note on my diary.
ReplyDeleteAs for the last dilemma, I would probably say no if my former lover who broke my heart wants to see me again, after what he's done (choosing someone else to marry). The reason for this is becaus I refuse to be the someone's back-up plan if their first plan is not working out.
For the mail order catalogue dilemma, I would tell the company about the error that they made. I would also return the money back, because in my opinion, the money is not mine, and it would be wrong to take the money. By doing this, the company will realize about their mistake, and they can also send me the right thing that I actually ordered.
ReplyDeleteFor the unemployed dilemma, I would tell the truth to my friend that I am unemployed, I think I will be very ashamed of myself, but in my opinion, telling the truth is the best choice. Even maybe, one of my friends from the university reunion party could help me get a job, or maybe offer me a job. I also think, that it will be worse, if I lied about having a job, and then later my friends actually found out that I did not have a job.
First of all, i’m going to choose the dilemma about spilling a red wine on the sofa. I choose this dilemma because it actually happened to me a long time ago, but instead of a red wine, it was a bowl of curry. When it happened, i wasn't really that panic, the first think i did was i took a a wet towel and clean it as soon as possible before it get dried. The only think that makes me worried was that it leave a brown stain in the sofa and the smell of the curry wont disappeared although i’ve clean it over so many times. At the end of the day, i just leave it that way and nothing happen afterwards. Besides from what happened, i don’t think you should be worried when this kind of matter happen to you. I believe that the hotel have already provide you with an insurance in case things like this happen.
ReplyDeleteI will give my own solution for the last two dilemmas.
ReplyDeleteFirst, for the dilemma about not seeing my former lover. My solution is that, I won’t go unless he gives me a permission. My reason is simply because I don’t want to hurt my fiancé’s heart by meeting my former lover secretly and I can’t imagine what would he feel if he knows the truth. Actually, I have another solution, and I think this one is the best way for this kind of problem.Whenever I want to meet my former lover I will ask my fiancé to go with me seeing him as well so there will be no jealousy that might happen. And who knows if they can become a good friend too.
For the last dilemma, I would definitely reject his offer to meet him. The reason is, I don’t want to fall into the same hole for twice. Since he has neglected me, hurt me, and left me to be with someone else, there is no reason for me to keep being around him because I believe it would make me feel even harder to move on if I keep seeing him.
I’m going to answer the third and fifth dilemma. For the third dilemma, which asks whether I should lie or tell the truth about my current unemployed state, I would answer the truth. The reason being is because if I lied, I would have to lie further and further as the person kept on inquiring about the job that I had. I would honestly hate myself for committing such a perpetual sin. Therefore, despite the mocking that may befall me if I told the truth, I’d endure the shame that felt very trivial and insignificant compared to the shame of getting my lie debunked. As for the fifth dilemma which asks whether I cover the stain I caused and remain quiet or just do a different possible alternative, I would report to the hotel’s cleaning service and own up to the mess that I just made. The reason is because if I were to stay for a night or even a couple in a five star hotel, that would infer with high clarity to the high wealth that I had. Therefore, if I could afford staying in a five star hotel but went bankrupt almost instantly, then why did I even go there in the first place instead of picking a different hotel of a cheaper room price?
ReplyDeleteI would like to comment on the 8th dilemma, whereas I’m engaged to be married but my fiancé insists that I no longer meet or talk to one of my former lovers who has become a close friend. First, I would ask him to provide me a defensible and justifiable reason, not just because of jealousy or “just because I don’t like it” kind of reason since I would definitely reject it and would consider calling the engagement off. My fiancé is my soon-to-be life partner and must have known that I would not abandon my friendship just because he asked me to and that other people would not matter when it comes to our relationship so he has nothing to worry about.
ReplyDeleteThe second dilemma I would like to comment on is the 4th dilemma where my aunt gave me an expensive crystal vase as a gift but I haven’t been using it since it doesn’t match my house decoration. My friend is getting married, would I gift the vase to her instead? As for me, I would never re-gift something because I think it’s not the proper etiquette. By re-gifting the vase, I might hurt my aunt’s feelings if she knew I gave her gift away and might led her to think I pretended to like it and wasn’t appreciative enough to keep it. Likewise, I might also hurt my friend’s feelings if she knew it was something out of my cupboard and could led her to think I wasn’t being sincere and thoughtful enough to pick out something for the occasion.
Firstly, I will comment regarding the vase dilemma. Since I have no use of the vase at home, it is okay for me to give it to a friend. I don’t mind if it is an expensive crystal vase. I received the vase for free anyway, so I don’t want to make a profit out of the vase. It certainly is not wise for me to sell it, giving it as a present for a friend getting married is certainly the right choice, as the vase can be used as a decoration for the marriage, then it’s up to them what they’re going to use it for.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, for the mail order catalogue dilemma, the refund I received is certainly not mine, I will surely give it back and tell the company about the error. Making a profit out of it isn’t an ethical thing to do, and the company loses its money where its not supposed to be.
First of all, I’m going to give my opinion on the first dilemma. I will for sure, without a doubt will buy one of my friend’s paintings if I have the money to buy it. But if it’s too expensive I wouldn’t buy it. However, just by coming to the exhibition and giving her my support, I think that’s enough. I would encourage her to do better at her paintings but not tell her that her paintings are not very good. The important thing is that she feels that I give her support and be by her side even if she hasn’t had a lot of success yet. I’m also going to give my opinion on the eighth dilemma. If my fiancé forbid me to see my former lover which is now my friend, I would not just simply obey him. There’s nothing wrong to be friends with a former lover. Just keep in mind that there’s a limit, make sure that you’re just friends with them and nothing more. You also have to convince your fiancé that you’re just friends.
ReplyDelete“You are unemployed. You are at a university reunion party five years after graduating. Someone asks you what you do. When you reply, do you make it sound like you have a job?”
ReplyDeleteNo. Why would I lie about that? If my friends knew I lied, they must dub me as a liar and I do not want that to be happening. And because they know I do not have a job, maybe there will be someone who offer me or help me getting a job.
“You and one of your close friends are attracted to the same person. You are both single and so is this person. One day he/she asks you if your friend is dating anyone. Do you lie and say “yes”?”
No, I will be honest and say “no”. But, I will tell him my feeling at the same time, even thought MAYBE he have a little feeling for my friend. If he likes my friend, what can I do? Feeling can not be forced. If that is the fact, I’ll be happy for my friend and try to forget my feeling for him. But there is a chance that he is not, who knows? Maybe there is a little chance for me after I tell him my feeling honestly.
If my aunt gave me an expensive crystal vase as a gift, I would most probably don’t give it to my friend as a wedding gift. First, because if I love my aunt, I would still want to keep her gift, even if I don’t like it; it can stay in a cupboard and it will not be a problem for anyone. Moreover, even in the case where I don’t love my aunt, I would still love my friends, so I wouldn’t want to give them a gift I don’t like.
ReplyDeleteIf my fiancé refuses that I continue to see one of my closest friends because he is one of my former lovers, I think I would continue seeing him. Even if I have been in love with this person, if he now is my friend, I would explain the situation to my fiancé, tell him that there is no ambiguity between me and him and that he shouldn’t worry.
“A friend of yours is an artist. She hasn’t had a lot of success yet. She invites you to her first exhibition and obviously hopes that you will buy one of her paintings. They are not very good and they are not very cheap. Do you feel you have to buy one?”. If the painting sold by the particular friend is not very appealing to me personally and I have no specific use for it, I will not purchase the painting, because it is a waste of my money and effort. But in return I would try to promote her painting and exhibition so that people that are of common interest with her may meet. For the second dillemma " You and one of your close friends are attracted to the same person. You are both single and so is this person. One day he/she asks you if your friend is dating anyone. Do you lie and say “yes”?" I would not lie to my friend cause there is not justice, ethic and honesty within doing that. Love should come naturally and it should not be forced. If the person you like was meant for you they would come back to you. But if they're not then they would go away from your life.
ReplyDeleteMy answer to the wine spilling dilemma would be that I would just cover the sofa with something and try to get away. It might seem irresponsible, but I just hate having to talk with bureaucratic hotel staff and having to pay exorbitant fees on expensive sofa cushions if I can easily get away by just disappearing after my stay. Besides, it is unlikely for the hotel to pursue me and ask for my responsibility if I’m already hundreds of kilometers away. My answer to the dilemma about the mail order purchase would be for me to keep the refund and the item, because it wont hurt for the company to have a small loss. It is also not my fault that the system had a malfunction in the first place. My answers to these two dilemmas might seem irresponsible and lacking of integrity, but at least I’m being honest. Maybe it’s my instincts as a stingy opportunistic college student taking over, especially that it is the end of the month where my money is starting to thin out.
ReplyDeleteI’ve always enjoyed questions involving with dilemmas as it challenges my brain to give a solution for specific scenarios or situations rather than articles involving us to tell a story. For this article, I’ve chosen to answer problems involving with being unemployed in a university reunion and an ex crush who has recently been divorced asking to meet up. These are questions that are likely to happen in the future and I would like to prepare myself if it ever occurs.
ReplyDeleteIf I’m unemployed and attend a university reunion – 5 years after graduating; I would most likely tell the truth and tell my friends about my current situation and pain. Some people might deem this as an embarrassing thing to do, but for me personally, it could be a path of opportunity to overcome my problems. By talking to them about it, I could land myself a job or get links and connections for one. After all, that is what friends are about.
If I’m ever in love with someone, but that woman left me and married someone else, and later on got divorced and eventually hitting me up to meet; my short answer would be to ignore her. That woman has left a hole in my heart and should not be given any opportunity to mend things or make things worse. There’s a popular saying online that goes “disregard females, acquire currency.”
For the dilemma that concerns with a newly engaged partner that insist that you shouldn’t meet with your former lovers again, I choose to continue to see her again. If I abide by the theory I given in my last blog comment about love; it will explain that, chances are, I was never in love with my former lover in the first place. The most likely scenario is that we become increasingly close as friends, we began to place ourselves in a relationship. Circumstances surrounding our break up would have any terrible repercussions. Chances are, we broke up because something happened that force us apart; like moving to another city because of a job or education. Therefore, I will see my former lover as more of a friend rather than a romantic interest. Despite my fiancée’s restrictions, I will continue to meet with my ex-girlfriend. I will try my best to convince my fiancée that we are strictly friends, and that it would not compromise the marriage on my behalf; if she doesn’t have the same trust in me as I have in her, I wouldn’t continue on my marriage. If I remember correctly, the same thing happened in an episode of Friends; where Ross had to end his marriage with his fiancée because she doesn’t want him to see Rachel again.
ReplyDeleteFor the last dilemma, I will agree to meet my former lover who just got divorced. Despite the fact that she left me heartbroken and bitter, I will learn to get over it within the course of two years. I will see her as an old friend and be there to provide emotional support in her time of need. I will not be looking into starting a relationship with her; because chances are I would have long got over my feelings for her and move on, either by already being in a relationship or not needing one for a while.
I would like to discuss the dilemma about “you are unemployed. You are at a university reunion party five years after graduating. Someone asks what you do. When you reply, do you make it sound like you have a job?” It would be a little embarrassing if I told them that I was unemployed. So yes I suppose that I would sound as if I have a job. I can also say that I have done few things and say that I haven’t found the perfect well-paying job. So it would look like I’m waiting for a job offer. Next, I will give my opinion on the dilemma about spilling red wine in a hotel room. At first, I will try to clean it with a cloth, or maybe some other methods that I can learn from Google. If it doesn’t work, yes I will cover the stain and keep quiet. It has become a habit to people that to keep quiet after leaving a stain in a public place. The hotel could probably clean it anyway.
ReplyDeleteIn the crystal vase case I would answer no, I wouldn't give it to my friend as their wedding gift, just because I never used it. I think none of us would actually have the heart to do that. Even if it wasn't a nice vase or it doesn't match the interior to my house I would definitely try to find a way to use it.
ReplyDeleteAnd the second one is the mail order error. This actually happened to me once, well it's not exactly the same case. I used to order an item and I only ordered 1 piece of this item. When it came to my mail they accidentally sent 2 of the items. What I did was I inform the admin that the package came with 2 items instead of 1 and I asked them what should I do, they gave the option whether to turn back and send them the 1 extra item or to pay for the additional item that they sent. Later that day I ended up paying for that 1 additional item just because its easier to do.
The first dilemma that I wanted to comment on is the expensive crystal vase. It is said that my aunt gave me an expensive crystal vase as a gift but it doesn’t suit the house furniture. Do I give it to my friends as a congratulation for their wedding? Well, I won’t just give it to them as a present since it is a present for me and the one who gave it was a family relative. But if the one who gave it to me was a friend and it’s not looking good in my house, I would definitely give it away as a wedding present. The second dilemma that I wanted to comment on is that if me and my close friend are attracted to the same person. We’re both single and so is this person and then one day she asks me if my friend is dating anyone. Do I lie and say “yes”? To answer that question, I would say no. As to why I’ll say no, it’s because I don’t want to get any trouble. If the person I’m interested in is interested to my close friend, I don’t want to be something between the two of them.
ReplyDeleteThe first dilemma that I am going to comment about is the first one. Regarding buying the product of an artist. Every or even any artist have the right to be criticized.For any aspect of his work, such as product (creation), work ethics, or even their lifestyle. I think that in this situation, I should give my friend the truth instead of giving him a stretch because if it is my friend, I should not be more nervous to tell the truth to him or her, I should be more truthful and speak as realistic as possible, but must use the mannered language.
ReplyDeleteThe second dilemma is regarding the unemployment thing. It's simple, if you don't have a job, then find something to keep you busy, such as a hobby or something else. Show people that you are still productive in your life.